Pain & Prejudice

Once again Paul has captured what is going on in society and in the church. Amen Brother!

I have seen the femination of men ,not just Christian, for 20 years in movies, on TV , in the way men are now required to groom themselves(men have spas' now), we can't just be clean. We must be as women are with every hair in place. and We are constantly put down as dumb and not equal to women. All you have to do is watch the commericals, sit coms., ect. on TV, or the chick filcks, magazines ,and on and on. We as men now must look and act as the "smart" women of the world look and act. We can not get mad or we will be labeled as abusers and women haters. We must act in "love " all the time ,and must not be in charge of anything including our own families. I could go on ,but I think you get the idea.
By the way men are as sensative to the Holy Spirit as women. Men need to get back to where God put us in the first place. Now! Men and women are equal in Gods eyes and should be in all mens and women's eyes.
I have been married for 33 years the love of my life my wife and I are one.

Kudos to Paul for speaking the truth.

Blaming the husband for a failed marriage is the logical conclusion of highly conservative fundamentalism. If the husband is treated as the head of the house, if his word is final in all circumstances, then he should bear all responsibility. If a company fails, you blame the CEO. You don't blame the janitor. Granted, most Christian marriages are probably not so dictatorial, even among fundamentalists; however, I do not think it would be a stretch to site the rise of fundamentalism as the root of many of your complaints.

I understand that you are merely trying to draw attention to a problem, but using persecution language to highlight one small challenge to a privileged class is not helpful. If Christian men are subjected to any "prejudice," it is of their own creation as authors of the system. They are not victims.

As a woman, I have to see this article as to the point, and unfortunately there will be MEN that will treat it from a perspective with a big EGO. I think Paul has hit a sore spot for wives and husbands alike. This article made me realize that some women HAVE treated our "Christian" men with lack of respect and also lack of trust in them as followers of Jesus. I think each person can look at their own situation and decide for themselves whether there is some area in their life that can be molded, not just their husband/brother/father....etc.. Thank you Paul for your very DIRECT and HONEST words. May the Lord continue to speak and heal through you, and many others.

Granted men need to understand they shouldn't evaluate themselves as some influenes suggest they should. Beyond that I'm not sure I see a point to this article. Does it just feel good to cry out "we are victims?"

Pain & Prejudice in a nut shell accurately discusses our Christian culture's bias against men. It's something I deal with in the congregation I attend and I'm trying to challenge it!

Paul Coughlin is a great brother! I was blessed richly by him when both he & I spoke at the recent Godmen conference. I've learned a lot from him in the last 4 years. Godmen is also a great ministry for men because it's speaking truth about men and equiping us to be men!

Read what Paul Coughlin is saying and help restore masculinity to the Christian Community!!

Oh, good--it's not just me.
Oh, bad--I *am* hearing what I think I hear.

Sometimes I wonder if women really don't like men, let alone love them, but use them for bread-winners (works less well today than 50 years ago), sperm donors, and then whipping boys.

In my case as an abused child, it started early, and it would be ridiculous at age 57 to still have periodic nightmares of my mother shrieking at me. Only it's not so ridiculous when I see how much sleep I lose.

And yes, my ex will tell you it was all my fault, and for transgressions I didn't commit. And my last gf will make similar claims for walking into a family catastrophe created 4 years earlier, but it's my fault I couldn't put it all right in a mere 5 months.

Still, I forge ahead, in therapy and on medication, but with a caution bordering on paranoia, and the fear that that could ruin a relationship that would otherwise work, since I probably cannot fully trust ever again.