Isn't It About Time You Got Married?

I am in and have been in that situation too. But the worst part is that when the statement comes from a married woman for 23rd years says "The best is to find a husband." Well, I agree with that especially when I shared with her how lonely I am. But as if I do not want to find. It's not that I do not want to find but simply there is no one find me. Then the question comes to me, is it that I do not know how to find?Is there something wrong with me?Oh well, I guess I just got to forget about this matter of marriage since it's hard to find and to wait for a husband to come by.Just concentrate on God!

Well, I've been blessed to be married for almost 17 years to the most wonderful man, but my advice would be to tell people that you've put it in God's hands and that they should, too. It's what I had to do when I was single after I got tired of being done so dirty so many times.

Also to answer the one question about age - I think it's more emotional maturity that matters than your physical age. You don't want to marry someone and become their mother but you also don't want them to be your father - you want to be equal.

Also ladies (and gentlemen) remember that it's better to never marry than to marry the WRONG....ONE!

Love you brothers & sisters, and hope God brings you all your heart's desires, whatever they may be.

Tonya B.
Columbus, OH
www.generationactz.com

it is a good one, the article made mention of what i am going through, but love it when i encourage myself even if those around me do not.

See it this way, one is not going out with any guy and one is expecting to be married, what do you have to say to this?

Few of the guys that comes you found out that you are much older than, am not talking about a year or two now like 5, 7.

what advice do you give?
what is there when one marries someone she is older than (for female)?


thanks

I am a 45yr. old single woman myself, and its been 6 going on 7 yrs. since my divorce. My comment is that why do other christians or people in general think we as single women want to be single or have comitted some great sin? on my job I work with quite few of male coworkers and I'm ask the question if not every week or more why am I not married, I'm too pretty to be single and all the above like you said you become an expert you smile , you change the subject and so on,God forbid not having sex they think its human impossible. To all of you single women in waiting we are going to coninue to Trust God and wait on our Boaz, we shall get the last laugh hang in there Esthers Our king Is On His WAy - I Decree And Declare It In Jesus Name, Amen - Shalom !!!

I agree that after a certain point in your life you hate to be asked that question. I think its worse when you are in a relationship and one person is ready and the other one isn't. Every holiday that comes around you hope that this is when you'll be proposed to. When it doesn't happen you just get more and more depressed everytime someone asks you. As women we have more to worry about as far as fertility goes. Its even scary sometimes. You wonder if you're wasting your time or you are being the loving person God would have you to be and just be patient. I couldnt have agreed more with this article. This is my favority part I can most relate to "It makes no sense to me--how a piece with the right coloring and the right shape just doesn't fit."-I couldn't have said it better. May you be blessed with all your hearts' desires.

I get a lot of that as well and even harsher things. It seems that many in the church assume that if you are single woman you must be sinning. They think this based on their assumption that people can't not have sex. But it is untrue. Also the stigma for single women in the church is silly. Single men in the church are quite rare and tend to have more than sixty decades or multiple divorces. Most of the married men in the church are at church to please their wives, even the deacons.

So when the pressure in the church for women to marry is simple unrealistic as long as we out number the male two to one.

I agree...it's hard for others who have not ever been single long enough to face these questions that it's a challenging road to respond to.
I have found that many married people assume things about single people rather than asking them what they think.
In my experience of these questions...sometimes even sharing the answers that I might be having to these questions again leads many married people to assume wrongly about how to relate to never married single people.
I have found that most "peer" friends think there's something that is to be "done" in order to get the answers.
I believe that the answers are only found along the way, and I'll never know them until after the day I die...just like, I'll never really know if I was called to be single until the day I die.