Dating Jesus: The Single Cure for Loneliness

It seems that sometimes singles get caught up in what they don't have. I am single. In the past I have found myself thinking about how I am alone. I am blessed. I have my health, my home, parents that love me and friends that bless me. I think that my selfish spirit started to see things differently when I went overseas on a mission team. I found myself feeling overwhelmed. People there had nothing. They didn't even have running water. They were joyful. Here I was complaining about not having a man? Wow. God has blessed me with everything I need. True. Maybe He has seen fit not to give me all of the things I want but that is because he is a gracious and loving God. He knows me better than I know myself and knows my needs. He didn't promise to fulfill all of my wants but my needs. This book is not simplistic. It is merely a book thats focus is to drive us back to what we should always be looking to. That is our Savior.

I am a 31 year old single mother who has never been married and I can totally relate with what the author said. While it is very simplistic, it is true for me. I look at Jesus as being the man in my life. When I get blessings for me and my family, I know that it is him who has made a way to take care of us. I try my best to think of how I carry myself, in the eyes of Jesus. Just like I would as a boyfriend how I look before I leave the house, I ask Jesus. I take the time to just look around at the natural things that God has his hands on to make. I feel like I have the best boyfriend ever. He takes great care of me, he treats me respectfully, he provides for me, he loves my children like they are his own, he accepts me just as I am and loves me unconditionally. He is so good to me. And I know that he wants only the best for me so, until he lets the man that he made me for, find me, then I am happy to have him as the man in my life and in my heart.

While beautifully written and full of good advice, I think that this article was too simplistic. From what I gather, the author was married at 19 and (from what I understand - but I could be wrong) has no real conception of what it is to be adult, single, and christian. You can have a wonderful loving relationship with Jesus, serve, yet still be lonely and long for a mate. Jesus is everything, but being with him does not mean that you will not be lonely again. He is not the cure for loneliness (except our longing for God himself) although he stands with us as we struggle.

No offense to the author. Again, she made excellent points and wrote very eloquently. But in reality, sometimes forming that relationship with Jesus leaves you lonelier for human companionship than before - especially as you start move deeply into the Lord and people no longer understand where you are coming from. He fulfills us - but for most of us, there is still a longing for human love.