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10 Little Habits that Can Lead to Divorce (and How to Avoid Them)
<i><p>"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” - Mark 10:9</i></p> <p>Divorce. Most people would be hard-pressed to think of a family who hasn’t been scarred by this word. It’s a word that doesn’t escape us— from the youngest child to the aging parents having to watch their adult children’s lives overturned by its whisper. Regardless of ages and stages, socio-economic class, race, religious belief, or sexual orientation, it is a word that typically leaves destruction in its wake. But, unlike so many other tragedies that plague us, it is one that can be avoided.</p> <p>Typically two people don’t start off down the path into wedded bliss with a hope that their marriage will end in divorce. Usually, it starts as a doubt, a thought, or a fear whispered into the darkness after being severely wounded. For others, the word is hurled across the room as an ultimatum or a consequence in a fit of rage. It is rarely the first option and rarely does a couple decide on this outcome amicably. Divorce is just not part of the fairy-tale dream-- but it is a reality that many face. Sadly, the warning signs are often apparent to others before those in the center of the problem realize what is going on. </p> <p>There are probably many divorced families who would agree that the path to marriage doesn't begin with the catastrophic. It's the little things-- the words and behaviors, the habits and actions that steer the marriage train down a destructive path. Perhaps if more couples were diligent about establishing good habits, more marriages would move back from the ledge-- one step away from the "d-word" and one step closer to a marriage that thrives instead of endures. </p> <p><b>In case you are wondering which habits lead to divorce, we've compiled a few for you:</b></p>
Wow Your Spouse with 90 Days of Romance
<p> Your heart beats with anticipation when you round the block and head into your driveway. It skips a beat when you hear that special ringtone and see your mate&rsquo;s face on your cell phone. Your smile widens as the one you love walks in the door. Your entire being longs to be with your spouse. Others want what you have&mdash;that spark and sizzle of a love that is on fire!&nbsp;</p> <p> The couple in <a href="https://www.biblestudytools.com/song-of-solomon/8-7.html" target="_blank">Song of Songs 8:7</a> felt this kind of love, saying, <em>&ldquo;Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away&hellip;&rdquo;</em></p> <p> Why do we long for intense, all-consuming love? It is because God designed us to give and receive love.<em> &quot;That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh&quot;</em> (<a href="https://www.biblestudytools.com/genesis/2-24.html" target="_blank">Genesis 2:24</a>). With a little bit of focus, enthusiasm, and creativity, in a short time, it is possible to renovate and revive your marriage. Or if you feel your marriage is already on solid footing, a focused period dating your mate will enrich your love even more!&nbsp;</p> <p> If you want a <em><a href="http://love-wise.com/rhrbook.php" target="_blank">Red Hot Romance</a>,</em> commit to this 90 day challenge to give God the time and opportunity to give you back those honeymoon feelings. Just like a diamond in a wedding ring has many facets, a strong marriage has unity in 13 different areas of intimacy. <strong>Here is the journey of love you and your spouse will take:</strong></p> <p> &nbsp;</p> <p> <span style="font-size:10px;">Photo courtesy: ©Unsplash.com/PhotobyAlvinMahmudov</span></p>
Married Sex: What is Okay with God?
<p> <em>Editor&rsquo;s Note: This article is adapted from Pam Farrel&rsquo;s <a href="https://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/engagement-newlyweds/married-sex-what-s-ok-with-god.html" target="_blank">Married Sex: What&rsquo;s Okay with God?</a> and Pam and Bill Farrel&rsquo;s <a href="https://www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/engagement-newlyweds/5-things-couples-get-wrong-about-sex.html" target="_blank">5 Things Couples Get Wrong about Sex</a>.&nbsp;</em></p> <p> In this over-sexed and under-loved world, people are looking for the real deal, the secret to lasting love with a vibrant sex life. Because of this pursuit for a purer passion, the most asked question we get when it comes to<em> <a href="http://love-wise.com/rhmbook.php" target="_blank">Red Hot Monogamy</a></em> is,<strong> &ldquo;What is okay with God?&rdquo;</strong></p> <p> <em><strong><span id="docs-internal-guid-0685e44d-581e-31aa-96d6-c31ee076248e">Pam and Bill Farrel </span></strong>are international speakers, and authors of 44 books including <a href="http://love-wise.com/rhmbook.php">Red Hot Monogamy</a>, <a href="http://love-wise.com/rhrbook.php">Red Hot Tips for Women</a>, <a href="http://love-wise.com/product.php#firstfive">The First Five Years</a>, and <a href="http://love-wise.com/wsbook.php">Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti</a>. They are co-directors of <a href="http://www.love-wise.com/">Love-Wise.com</a>&nbsp;and have kept the spark in their love for more than 36 years.</em></p> <p> <span style="font-size:10px;">Photo courtesy: ©Thinkstock/vadimguzhva</span></p>
10 Fantastic Qualities Not to Overlook in a Husband
A friend of mine asked me to edit a letter he was writing to his teenage daughters about what qualities to look for in a good man. After I poured my heart back into my chest (it had melted all over the floor), I put on my editor hat to engage in what this father sees as important in a husband.<p>My letter-writing friend mentioned discipline, the way the boy in question treats his mother, and whether he has the strength of character to respectfully disagree with his girl.<p>Reading his thoughts intersected with several conversations I’ve had over the past few months with Christian singles trying to figure out what this whole dating thing should be about.<p>I think I need another decade of life experience before I could begin to pick apart what’s really honoring when it comes to dating “with Jesus at the center.” But since I can’t fix the good man/Christian dating problem this morning (feel free to weigh in), I can at least start the conversation.<p>Of course, the most important thing should be Jesus. But, when I met Dave, the quality of his relationship with Jesus (as well as my own) wouldn’t have been winning either one of us any crowns in heaven. We’ve both changed dramatically, and his relationship with the Lord is strong, steady, and well…quiet. So I worry that if I told you that the ONLY thing that matters is to “make sure Jesus is at the center of your relationship” you might start to figure that he’s got to have some worship songs he can sing to you on the guitar, or he needs to exposit some scripture, or for goodness sake, at least move people to tears with the passion of his public prayers. And sometimes in the quest for that spiritual leader, you might overlook the qualities that Christ put in your man that aren’t quite so visible. Like these:<p>Photo courtesy: ©Thinkstock/bernardbodo

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