Life-Giving Encouragement: Oh, That I Would…
By Sharon W. Betters
You have laid down precepts that are to be fully obeyed. Oh, that my ways were steadfast in obeying your decrees! -Psalm 119:4-5
You may have begun this journey of practicing life-giving encouragement with joy and anticipation of great blessings, but today you are starting to wonder if you are really cut out for this task. You see the encouragement command, and you want to be a life-giver, not a life-taker, but at the end of the day, you often recognize how short you fall in obedience.
The writer of Psalm 119 loves God’s Word. Take 20 minutes to read this passage and note how many times and ways he describes the beauty of God’s Word and how obeying it results in peace, joy, freedom. Certainly, someone with this perspective easily obeys and doesn’t lay his head down at night covered with guilt for disobedience. Right? Perhaps not. In this passage, the Psalmist laments he is not steadfast in obeying God’s Word. His words, “Oh, that I would…” imply regret and longing. I can relate. We are flawed and as much as we might start our day determined to walk in obedience, our flesh wars against the desires of our hearts, or at least mine does. I want to patiently respond with compassion to the elderly woman who constantly complains no one cares enough to visit or the grandchild who doesn’t respond to my attempts to connect or the woman who never seems to see anything but the glass half empty. It is like, deep inside us, there is a poisoned spring, and instead of kindness, sarcasm sometimes flows out, and we watch as our comments cause the life to fade from needy eyes. Oh, that I would be a life-giver, obedient to His beautiful, life-giving words. Biblical encouragement requires dying to self:
Therefore, I urge you, sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship. -Romans 12:1
Don’t miss this: dying to self is actually worship. Remember whenever the writer of Scripture says, “Therefore…” we need to find out what it is “there for”. Paul has just tried to describe God’s love for His children. I say “tried” because it seems Paul cannot find enough words to capture his appreciation for God’s love.
Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and how inscrutable His ways! “For who has known the mind of the Lord, or who has been His counselor? Or who has given a gift to Him that He might be repaid?” For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen. -Romans 11:33-36
Because of this indescribable love, Paul calls us to “die to self” as a means of worshipping this God whose love cannot be described with human words. When I feel resentment, anger, frustration, or impatience rising up in my heart toward a needy friend, this passage reminds me I have the privilege of passing on this love to others. I am learning that spending time in the Scriptures reminds me of this perfect love equips me to practice life-giving encouragement, rather than turning away from a difficult relationship.
As I observe friends practicing this life-giving encouragement that requires repeatedly dying to self I see them creating a climate for new life to emerge. They are in it for the long haul. Their obedience is contagious and makes me want to experience a similar kind of worship that results in new life.
What annoying, frustrating or aggravating little task has God called you to today? Before you go, ask Him to give you a new heart and a new love for the person who needs your life-giving presence. Review Paul’s description of God’s love in Romans 11:33-36. Ask the Lord what practical action you can take to reflect Jesus: clean their bathroom, clean out the refrigerator, scrub the kitchen floor, plant a flower bed, weed the garden? Sit with a lonely friend? Be the hands and feet of Jesus today.
Lord, change my heart. Make my heart more like Yours. Every time I’m tempted to spew out life-taking words and facial expressions, stop me, remind me of how patient You are with me and when I am needy and intentionally ignore Your Word and presence, You don’t abandon me. You love me and patiently make a way for me to repent and be transformed by Your forgiveness and love.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sharon W. Betters is author of Treasures of Encouragement, Treasures in Darkness, and co-author of Treasures of Faith. She is Director of Resource Development and co-founder of MARKINC.org, a nonprofit organization that offers help and hope to hurting people. Sharon enjoys quality time with her husband, children, and fourteen grandchildren.
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