Grace-Energized Women Guard their Tongues and Appetites
The whole goal of a Titus two woman is to train younger women in Biblical, simple-to-measure, Spirit-empowered, love-based living.
Paul did not call for Titus as the pastor to train all the women in these qualities God wanted them to cultivate; rather he called upon the godly older women of Christ's church. He singles out the women of faith, those who had already learned to love their husbands, learned to love their children, and learned to be reverent, godly, modest and wise, and charged them with seeking out and meeting with every younger woman in the church.
Godly Women Seek to be Reverent in Their Behavior
Titus 2:3b "not slanderers"
Next Paul turns the spotlight on the hardest member of the body to control, according to James, the tongue. Twice in his epistles Paul targets a woman's habits of her speech, saying it is a spiritual qualifier or disqualifier. Though this is a universal problem we all face, Paul specifically says to women who want to serve Christ's church, guard those tongues. I Timothy 3:11 "In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything" (NIV).
Whereas men tend to be rough or violent in their actions, women have a tendency to be rough or violent in their words. Older women who find themselves with time on their hands can be tempted to allow their conversations to lead to gossip, criticism, and slander.
James tells us that a tongue out of control indicates a life out of control. He goes on to warn how huge can be the dangerous effects of uncontrolled words. James 3:2,6 "For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body as well. 6 And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell." (NAS)
Note that the source of all wickedness, especially of an uncontrolled tongue, is hell; and it is Satan who is at the root of all gossip, all harmful talk, and all slander. If you are damaging the reputation and ministry of others, you are a tool of the devil.
Right after James' discussion of the tongue he explains that our motivation either comes from below (Satan's realm) or above (God's). We can tell by the byproduct of our words and actions. When what we say causes this list of woes from James 3:15-16: "jealousy, selfish ambition, disorder, envy, and every evil practice" or as one man puts it, "Whenever you're trying to look better than others or get the better of others, things fall apart and everyone ends up at the others' throats."
In fact the word "slanderers" here in Titus 2:3 is diabolos, the very name of Satan, used of him 34 times in the New Testament. Satan has been a false accuser and so each time he incites a believer to do so, they are doing Satan's work. Satan is the ultimate source of all evil, the root of all wrong behavior; and since James says the tongue is capable of causing great evil, Satan is always close at hand.
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