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Discover the Book - September 9

  • 2020 Sep 09


How to Disciple Your Wife

Deuteronomy 6:4-6 " Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD: And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:"

Now we look at the hardest part of a godly dad's role. There is no way we can ever minister to our wife's deepest needs if we are not holy! The key to a godly marriage and a powerful Christian home is the personal experience of godliness. We try so hard and then lessen our grip on the essentials and then they slip away! Remember the humorous recounting of our lessening of our loving care of our wives?


Several years ago, the Saturday Evening Post published an article entitled "The Seven Ages of the Married Cold."  It revealed the reaction of a husband to his wife's colds during their first seven years of marriage.  It went something like this:

  • The first year:  "Sugar dumpling, I'm really worried about my baby girl.  You've got a bad sniffle, and there's no telling about these things with all this strep throat going around.  I'm putting you in the hospital this afternoon for a general checkup and a good rest.  I know the food's lousy, but I'll be bringing your meals in from Rossini's.  I've already got it all arranged with the floor superintendent."
  • The second year:  "Listen, darling, I don't like the sound of that cough.  I called Doc Miller and asked him to rush over here.  Now you go to bed like a good girl, please?  Just for papa."
  • The third year:  "Maybe you'd better lie down, honey; nothing like a little rest when you feel lousy.  I'll bring you something to eat.  Have you got any canned soup?"
  • The fourth year:  "Now look, dear, be sensible.  After you've fed the kids, washed the dishes, and finished the floor, you'd better lie down."
  • The fifth year:  "Why don't you take a couple of aspirin?"
  • The sixth year:  "I wish you'd just gargle or something, instead of sitting around all evening barking like a seal!"
  • The seventh year:  "For Pete's sake, stop sneezing!  Are you trying to give me pneumonia?!"

The decline of marriage as seen through the common cold is a funny look at a not-so-funny reality.

What Are We to do As Husbands to Disciple Our Wife?

1.   First we need to consider what every wife needs to succeed:

COMPANIONSHIP: Proverbs 31:11  "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil."

SECURITY: Proverbs 31:12 "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."

SIGNIFICANCE: Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."

EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESS: Proverbs 31:28 "Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."

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