There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self. — Benjamin Franklin
It’s fairly easy to get to know your mate. It’s a whole lot harder to be honest enough to get to know yourself, and to be humble enough to take responsibility for your flesh.
Carol is a counselor and a friend who helped my wife and me turn over a new leaf in our marriage. She has talked to so many people about their flesh that she’s identified numerous flesh patterns. Are you honest and humble enough to see which ones describe your natural bent?
- Performance flesh: The hard worker. Well-adjusted, aggressive, outgoing, positive, motivated, driven, take charge kind of person.
- Religious flesh: The “Good Christian.” Passive, nice, sweet, obedient, dutiful, pious, sanctimonious.
- Superior flesh: The “snob,” outwardly proud, defensive, conceited, know-it-all. They look down on other people because they’re not as bright as they are.
- Comfort flesh: The laid-back easy-going person, cautious, indecisive, unmotivated, and avoids conflict like the plague.
- Victim flesh: Negative, complaining, defeated, self-pitying. They are often unforgiving and blaming.
- Caretaker flesh: The enabler, rescuer, fixer. Often obsessive, nagging, overly responsible, overly protective.
- Pleaser flesh: The nice guy. Compliant, submissive, compromising, self-neglecting. Has a hard time saying no and says yes to too much in order to feel accepted.
- Indulgent flesh: The compulsive person. Obsessive, easily addicted, insatiable, thrill seeker, pleasure seeker.
- Hostile flesh: The abusive antisocial person. Angry, domineering, vengeful, quick tempered, hateful.
Anything sound familiar? (If not, you probably have religious or superior flesh!)
Holy Spirit, You are the Great Counselor, and I need You now. I sincerely ask that You would make me honest and humble, that I might be able to identify and take responsibility for the patterns of my flesh. I want to walk with You. Lead me in the ways of Your love. Amen.
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