Options for hard times
Ever have one of those situations in which your friend is going through a hard time and you just don’t know what to say? Yeah, me too. (And I’m even a life coach.) Sometimes I say dumb things and then regret it later.
After reading the story of Job in the Bible, it’s safe to say that Job’s friends were in a tough spot. Job had nearly every possible horrible thing happen to him all at once. When his three friends showed up to comfort him, they began weeping, and then maybe they experienced that awkward moment I’ve felt so many times where they thought, “What on earth do we say?!”
Here’s what they decided to do: “Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was” (Job 2:13).
When a friend is going through something tough, you don’t have to talk a lot or give advice. You’ve got other options. You can choose to just listen instead—maybe ask some questions to encourage him or her to open up. You can ask them what they need—“Do you want to talk about it or totally avoid the subject? What do you need today?” You can admit you’re not sure what to say. You can admit you can’t relate to their pain, but you know Jesus does. Or you can sit in total silence. Your presence makes a difference.
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