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Transformation Garden - Apr. 1, 2010

  • 2010 Apr 01


"Now Michal, Saul's daughter, loved David: and they told Saul, and it pleased him.  Saul thought, ‘I will give her to him that she may be a snare to him and that the hand of the Philistines may be against him.'"
I Samuel 18: 20,21, Amplified Bible


"A Woman's Love" Part 1 

"Real love means that we are still master of our acts, and we use our inclinations and attractions simply as guides in the direction we choose to take."
Aeired of Rievauix

What does it mean to me to "love" someone?

In my life, what have I done or to what lengths have I gone in my personal behavior because I thought I "loved" another person?

"A Christian love is in itself generous and disinterested; springing from no view of advantage to himself (or herself), from no regard to profit or praise."
John Wesley


"Love sought is good, but given unsought is better."
William Shakespeare

From the famous play, Twelfth Night, the great William Shakespeare, who had a great deal to say about love, penned the words above, "Love sought is good, but love given unsought is better."

I don't know if the thought he expressed came from personal experience, however, I ask you to think back through the times when you have experienced "love" in your own life.  I know personally that those unexpected moments, when someone I cared for, without any great fanfare, expressed their heartfelt love, are the times when it meant a great deal to me.

A few years ago, on my birthday, I was feeling a little annoyed with Jim for usually, first thing in the morning on August 12 each year, he brings me a card and always starts the day being the first person to tell me, "Happy Birthday." However, on this particular day, no card and no words.

When I went out to the kitchen to get some breakfast, there on the counter where he knows I prepare breakfast each day, was a sealed envelope. I opened it to find a three page letter detailing many of the events in our life together that had great meaning for Jim.  Written in his own handwriting were the memories of shared times and as he finished the letter he said, "Now do you know why I love you so much."

This very personal expression of love I'm telling you about has continued to mean more to me through the years than all the money in the world.  For Jim's love was given without force or without bribe.  It was given from one single thing - a heart that loved - a true, faithful, generous love.

This is the kind of love it appears Michal had for David. We aren't told in our text today that she loved David for any other reason except love itself.  And I must say that a love so freely given from a woman's heart or from a man's heart should be held in a vault of protection in return. A love which is given without price or conditions or a love that isn't negotiated by lawyers is a love that is a rarity in our world.

In the book of John, Jesus shared the basic foundation which describes the heavenly love He longs for each of His children to experience as well as to give one another: "My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.  Greater love has no one than this, that he (she) lays down his (her) life for his (her) friends." (John 15: 9-17).

While we found out yesterday that Saul's behind the scenes manipulations tried to arrange a marriage of his convenience between his daughter Merab and David, today we see that Saul's younger daughter, Michal, actually loved David - and in my book of love, to marry without heaven's love as the tie that binds, is a huge mistake for any person.

I love these beautiful words penned by Gertrude More:

"O my God, let me walk in the way of love which knoweth not how to seek self in anything whatsoever.
But what love must it be?
It must be an ardent love, a pure love, a courageous love, a love of charity, a humble love,
And a constant love.
O Lord, give this love into my soul, that I may never more live nor breathe but out of a more pure love of Thee."

May those individuals in our lives today feel the heavenly love from us that heals and holds. And may our bonds of love be the cords of heaven's silk that softly embrace the hearts of those whom God has blessed us with.

Tomorrow, we will look at the other side of love. For when Saul found out that Michal loved David, sadly, this ungodly man tried to use that love to deceive and destroy.  Oh, that we might recognize love's gift and never use love to wound another.


Teach Us To Love 

"Lord, we thank Thee for all the love that has been given to us, for the love of family and friends, and above all for Your love poured out upon us every moment of our lives in steadfast glory.  Forgive our unworthiness. Forgive the many times we have disappointed those who love us, have failed them, wearied them, saddened them. Failing them we have failed You, and hurting them we have wounded our Saviour who for love's sake died for us. Lord, have mercy on us, and forgive. You do not fail those who love You. You do not change nor vary. Teach us Your own constancy in love, Your humility, selflessness and generosity. Look in pity on our small and tarnished loving, protect, foster and strengthen it, that it may be less unworthy to be offered to You and to Your children. O Light of the world, teach us how to love.
Elizabeth Goudge

Your friend,
Dorothy Valcàrcel, Author 
When A Woman Meets Jesus

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