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Transformation Garden - Mar. 27, 2011

  • 2011 Mar 27

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
John 3: 16
King James Version


“The Cost of Love”

“Jesus did not come to make God’s love possible, but to make God’s love visible.”
Author Unknown

What has been the “cost” of love in my own life?

What does having God’s eternal love in my life mean to me?

“God loves us not because of who we are but because of who He is.”
Author Unknown


“God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us to love.”
Augustine of Hippo

In many parts of the world, and especially in the United States today, you cannot turn on a radio, television, or the internet without being bombarded with “love” messages, for February 14, is celebrated as Valentine’s Day. This is a day when we are reminded to treasure the love we have. Or it may be we are grieving for the love we have lost.

Interestingly, the celebration of this “love holiday” has its founding in the life of a man called St. Valentine who was a Christian martyr. This piece of information got me to thinking about the “cost” of love.

As we have studied David’s life, and what appeared to be his nearly unending quest to find the right woman, one can potentially assume that in David’s chase after the female sex, there was some craving or desire to find a love that would bring him fulfillment.

I think that in all our lives, many of us have struggled at times to find a love that satisfies an ache in our hearts. I know that in my younger years I was certain, or so I thought on more than one occasion, that I’d found a love that met the longing I had to feel complete. You may well be able to relate to what I just said for often, it is this “less than whole” feeling, which drives us on a relentless pursuit of that “one” – that perfect person. But if like I, you have found that all that glitters is not gold and that the honey dripping from a flatterer’s lips may serve to hide the sting of a bee, then your view of love may come with a cynic’s sneer. As the old saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you; but fool me twice, shame on me.”

I can’t tell you how many times in my dating years I told myself, “I won’t fall so easy next time. I won’t give my heart away with such little thought.” Then, some sweet-talking guy would assure me of his undying love, and “whosh” I fell flat.  Unfortunately, when the love tower came crashing down, I’d shake my head in wonder, rarely recognizing the shaky foundation it had been laid on in the first place.

Having read, over the last four years, every letter, note and email that has been sent to Transformation Garden, I know for a fact that the sentiments I am expressing are reflected in the lives of many of the individuals who come to the Garden. Love has taken a toll on all of us – and sometimes the cost of love seems to be too high. Our solution may be to reject love or retreat from love or deny its existence, altogether. Love may seem for us, at some time in our lives, too high a cost to risk for a feeling that can be ever so fleeting.

If this has been, or is right now, the way you feel about letting love into your life, then I want to remind you of the greatest, most costly love ever shared with you and me. A love that cost us nothing for the Apostle Paul, states that this love, this gift from God, was given to us," while we were yet sinners” (Romans 5: 8). We certainly didn’t deserve this gift. We had nothing attractive about ourselves that could woo our “Lover.” Instead, God made the first move because we didn’t even have any concept of how we should act or what we should do. I love the way The Message Bible so beautifully lays out God’s unbelievable love in the familiar text John 3: 16, “This is how much God loved the world. He gave His Son, His one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in Him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life.”

You see, there’s that word that propels us all to seek love – it is a desire to be “whole” or “complete.” There’s something missing. Something is not quite right. I’m not all together. So my search begins and I try with all my might to find that “thing” or that “person” or that “love” that will mend me, but to no avail. Knowing that I could do nothing to help myself become whole, our Father, who was and is all the love you and I will ever need, gave to us what we couldn’t get on our own. The songwriter and author Gloria Gaither expresses this thought with such eloquence in His Love…Reaching “Right from the beginning God’s love has reached, and from the beginning man (and woman) has refused to understand. But love went on reaching, offering itself. Love offered the eternal…we wanted the immediate. Love offered deep joy…we wanted thrills. Love offered freedom…we wanted license. Love offered communion with God Himself…we wanted worship at the shrine of our own minds. Love offered peace…we wanted approval for our wars. Even yet, love went on reaching…right through the chaos of our world, through the confusion of our minds.”

On the day when the world focuses on love that is too frequently expressed only by chocolates that are consumed or flowers that will wilt or flattering words that become hollow when actions do not match what’s spoken, may you and I never forget that we have been given, today and everyday, an eternal love that brings wholeness to every part of our being. In the words of Jeremy Taylor, “Love is the greatest thing that God can give us.”

“Is it a small thing in your eyes to be loved by God – to be the son (or daughter), the spouse, the love, the delight of the King of glory? Christian, believe this, and think about it: you will be eternally embraced by the arms of the love which was from everlasting, and will extend to everlasting – of the love which brought the Son of God’s love from heaven to earth, from earth to the cross, from the cross to the grave, from the grave to glory – that love which was weary, hungry, tempted, scorned, scourged, buffeted, spat upon, crucified, pierced – which fasted, prayed, taught, healed, wept, sweated, bled, died. That love will eternally embrace you.”
Richard Baxter


“For the love of God is broader
Than the measure of man’s mind;
And the heart of the Eternal
Is most wonderfully kind.”
F. W. Faber

I found it a blessing that in contemporary music this year, during the Grammy Awards, which focus much of their emphasis on commercialism and the “things” of this world, the musical ministry of George Beverly Shea was honored. I thought it very appropriate, when so many talk about love, to reflect on the greatest love of all, the love of God. George Beverly Shea certainly did just that in one of my all-time favorite songs which he wrote both the words and music to:

The Wonder of It All

“There’s the wonder of sunset at evening,
The wonder as sunrise I see;
But the wonder of wonders that thrills my soul,
Is the wonder that God loves me.

There’s the wonder of springtime and harvest,
The sky the stars, the sun;
But the wonder of wonders that thrills my soul,
Is a wonder that’s only begun.

O, the wonder of it all! The wonder of it all!
Just to think that God loves me.
O, the wonder of it all! The wonder of it all!
Just to think that God loves me.”
George Beverly Shea
(1909 -   )

Your Friend,
Dorothy Valcấrcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus

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