“But Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, ‘Go, return each of you to her mother’s house. May the Lord deal kindly with you, as you have dealt with the dead and with me. The Lord grant that you may find a home and rest, each in the house of her husband!’ Then she kissed them and they wept aloud. And they said to her, ‘No, we will return with you to your people.’”
Ruth 1: 8-10
“How We Deal With Others”
“You cannot always have happiness, but you can always give happiness.”
How do I deal with others?
On the path to my destiny do I walk over others or do I assist others in their journey, too?
“Heavenly love is transmitted when I stand with one hand lifted toward my Father and the other hand stretched out to one of my sisters, allowing myself to be a channel where love can flow.”
When A Woman Meets Jesus
“The secret of being loved is in being lovely; and the secret of being lovely is in being unselfish.”
Three widows – Naomi, Orpah and Ruth. Left alone in Moab after their husbands died. You can only imagine the close bond that held these three women together. Sorrow and pain, among fellow travelers, can be like super-glue, joining us in ways we never could have guessed. I found this to be true during the four months Jim and I spent in the hospital after our car accident, especially the weeks at the Rehabilitation Hospital. Old or young, male or female, it didn’t matter where you came from, or how much money you had. Nothing mattered except that we were all fellow comrades in our struggle to overcome the destruction left by trauma or disease. It didn’t take long to learn that by helping another on their path to recovery, we were actually helping ourselves. One night in particular, my roommate’s feeding tube came out and she began to choke. As a former nurse, I knew she was in serious trouble, but I couldn’t move to help her, yet I could scream for a nurse to come and believe me I did. The next day, the lady’s family came and grabbed my one uninjured hand, my right hand, and kissed it over and over again. “You saved our mother,” they cried. Yet, over the next few weeks, what they didn’t realize was that their precious mother, who had a stroke, saved me. For although she lost the ability to talk as a result of her stroke, she could sing perfectly. At night, when the lights went out, and the hospital ward was still, she would sing beautiful hymns. It was hearing her sing that lit the fire of hope in my heart again. For as my speechless roommate used her voice to fill our room with melodies of heaven, she also filled my heart with the joy of heaven.
I share this very personal story with you because it is so representative of the unselfish love we find present in the life of Naomi. A love she didn’t withhold from her daughters-in-law just because they were from the land of Moab
Naomi’s love was an unselfish love. Rather than focus on her own desire for companionship, we find that the compassion Naomi extended to her “daughters” was the kind that put their needs first.
“Go back to your homes. Find husbands in your country. May you find rest. And may God deal with you as you have dealt with me,” she told Ruth and Orpah. In the Hebrew translation we find that Naomi was telling her precious daughters that she would ask God to fulfill the same destiny and future in their lives as He did in hers. Theirs was a shared joy, and a shared future. The result of a woman who chose to take heaven’s love and extend it to everyone she met.
The reason that Naomi’s daughters-in-law did not want to leave her side is that they understood Naomi didn’t talk about love – she practiced love – every day of her life. She lived the words of John Andrew Holmer who noted, “There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” May you and I choose to live our lives sharing the same love Naomi did.
“I find life an exciting business, and most exciting when it is lived for others.”
“It is in loving – not in being loved- The heart is blest;
It is in giving – not in seeking gifts – we find our quest.
If thou art hungry, lacking heavenly food – give hope and cheer.
If thou art sad and wouldst be comforted – stay sorrow’s tear.
Whatever be thy longing and thy need – that do thou give;
So shall thy soul be fed, and thou indeed, shalt truly live.”
Naomi’s Song of Love
“If all my pain and all my tears,
and all that I have learned
throughout the years,
could make one perfect song of love,
to lift some fallen head
to light some darkened mind,
I should feel that not in vain
I served mankind.”
Dorothy Valcárcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus
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