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Reaching Goals as a Married Couple

  • Dan Miller
  • 2011 1 Aug
Reaching Goals as a Married Couple

Here’s a question from a podcast listener.

“Dan, I’ve been doing many things lately for personal growth with my aim on self-employment and better health. Lately, I’ve learned that my wife is fearful that I may grow dissatisfied with her as I make improvements in my own life. I try to keep her in the loop by talking about what I’m reading and learning but that just triggers more insecurity. How can I bring her along on my journey?”

What an important question!  Hopefully we are all growing and changing. Does that mean we have to leave behind those we once loved? Certainly not. Joanne and I married very young – she was 19 and I had just turned 20. I would be mortified if either of us were the people today we were back then. Fortunately, we’ve both been interested in intellectual, emotional and spiritual growth in the years we’ve been together.

But being committed to the covenant of marriage, we each have to take the lead in sharing areas that are new and intriguing to us.

Here are my suggestions:

  • Treat your wife with love and respect.  This is absolutely essential to your success in reaching your new goals.  1 Peter 3:7 says:  “Husbands, must give honor to (their) wives…..treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” If you neglect your wife, treat her unkindly, or refuse to honor her, your prayers about your own success won’t even be heard by God.
  • You cannot be condescending in any way
  • Keep your wife informed about the new things that interest you
  • Share exciting things your are reading and learning
  • Make no implications that she should be doing what you’re doing
  • Introduce her to new friends who are achieving in those areas
  • Invite her to attend special events that you’d like to attend
  • Just show by example that you feel better, have more self-confidence and enthusiasm
  • Make your changes contagious for her. member Jodey Smith takes my podcast and breaks them down to the individual questions on his 48 Days INSTANT Podcast.  Here you can listen to my 1:43 minute audio response to this question.

 Dan Miller is today's leading authority and personality on careers and 'Work You LoveTM'. As bestselling author of 48 Days To The Work You Love, and now No More Mondays, Dan reaches over a million people every month in his newsletter, podcast, and blog with the best trends and opportunities in the workplace and small business. For more information, visit