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Just Say No

  • Whitney Hopler Live It Editor
  • 2001 19 Aug
Just Say No
Too often, people say yes when they should say no. If you don’t have a sense of peace that God wants you to pursue something, saying no protects you from the trouble that saying yes could bring.

Here are some ways you can say no more boldly:

  • Realize that God says no to things He knows aren’t right. God isn’t afraid to say no; He never hesitates to do so. Consider the ways in which you’ve seen circumstances turn out for the best when God has said no to you before. Thank Him for having the courage to act in your best interest, and ask Him to give you courage to make and stand by the right decisions.
  • When someone asks you to do something, think and pray honestly about whether God would have you do it. If the answer is no, say so clearly, firmly and respectfully. There’s no need for you to feel guilty, and it will be easier to avoid feeling that way if you’re not wishy-washy when you communicate. Remember that pleasing God – not necessarily people – is what’s truly important.
  • Unless it’s absolutely necessary, don’t explain a no answer. Explaining is often perceived as offering excuses and can open doors for people to try to persuade you to change your mind.
  • Pray for the grace to be able to say no to yourself when confronted with temptations that would hinder your relationship with God if you pursued them.
  • Realize that a no answer will often likely be unpopular, but is always worthwhile if it’s the direction in which God is leading you. Sometimes, too, people to whom you say no will realize that your answer is actually a gift. For example, your children will probably thank you later for saying no to them sometimes while growing up, since that discipline will instill godly standards and a sense of security in them.
  • When relating to people who don’t yet have a relationship with Christ, rely on the Holy Spirit’s power to help you shine His light to them without letting their darkness start to dim it. Be vigilant about saying no to their choices while still loving them as people.

Adapted from Learning to Say No Without Feeling Guilty,part of the collection Breaking Controlling Powers, copyright 2000 by Roberts Liardon. Published by Albury Publishing, Tulsa, Ok.,, 1-800-811-3921.

Roberts Liardon is founder and senior pastor of Embassy Christian Center and Spirit Life Bible College.