Transformation Garden - Apr. 10, 2010


"And Jonathan told David, ‘Go in peace, forasmuch as we have sworn to each other in the name of the Lord saying, the Lord shall be between me and you, and between my descendants and yours forever.'"
I Samuel 20: 42, Amplified Bible


"A Faithful Friend" 

"The bird a nest, the spider a web, man (and woman) friendship."
William Blake

What do my friends mean to me?

Has there been a time in my life when during adversity my friends have especially meant a lot to me?

What kind of friend have I been when my friends really needed me?

"True friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."
George Washington


"If I don't have friends, then I ain't got nothin'."
Billie Holiday

With a wife who had told her dad her husband had tried to kill her and with the king and ruler of the Israelites putting his face at the top of a "Most Wanted" poster, David was in a perilous position, to say the least! What he needed was someone he could trust. Someone who would not let him down.

And in I Samuel 20, if you read the entire chapter, you'll find that David had just such a person in his life.  Believe it or not, it was Saul's own son, Jonathan, who was David's devoted friend.

With his world collapsing around him, David had the loyalty of a dear friend who at the risk of his own father's anger, still stood by David and promised that theirs would be a legacy of faithfulness that would never waver.  Author A. E. Housman penned these touching words, "You smile upon your friend today, today his ills are over." And in a field not far from the palace, Jonathan smiled upon his dear friend David and lifted a heavy burden from the shoulders of the person who was closer to Jonathan than his own siblings.

With a promise that down through time they would look after each others' descendants, these two friends parted.  While distance separated them physically, their hearts were united as one.  Truly, the unity of one beating heart in two individuals.

How blessed David was to have a friend like Jonathan in his time of need.  And the same can be said of you and me. The treasure of a good friend's company and love is something we should carry close to our hearts and cultivate with a gentle tenderness that never falters.

I greatly enjoy reading passages written in the beautifully, expressive language of times past.  The French writer and aviator, Antoine de Saint-Exupéry expressed in such descriptive passages the blessings that fill our lives when we have friends to share the moments of our lives with. "We forget that there is no hope of joy except in human relations. If I summon up those memories that have left with me an enduring savor, if I draw up the balance sheet of the hours in my life that have truly counted, surely I find only those that no wealth could have procured me. True riches cannot be bought.  One cannot buy the friendship of a companion to whom one is bound by ordeals in common…Happiness!  It is useless to seek it elsewhere than in the warmth of human relations."

Why not take a moment today to think of that dear one who helps you bear the burdens of each day.  That person who knows you best and loves you still.  That one person who like the friend of David, Jonathan, gives their heart in love and loyalty to you, looking out for your best interest; protecting you; and never letting you slip from their memory. If you have such a person in your life, you are blessed, indeed.

I love this prayer written by C. Herbert called, Strong Friendships, for it embodies the essence of the wonderful gift of friendship: "Let our friendships be strong, O Lord, that they become a blessing to others…Let our friendships be open, O Lord, that they may be a haven for others…Let our friendships be gentle, O Lord, that they may bring peace to others."

May this be the gift we give our friends today.

"Greater love hath no man (or woman) than this, that a man (or woman) lay down his (her) life for his (her) friends."
John 15: 13, K.J.V.


Pass It On 

"Have you had a kindness shown?
Pass it on.
‘Twas not  given for thee alone,
Pass it on.
Let it travel down the years,
Let it wipe another's tears,
‘Till in heaven the deed appears
Pass it on.
Did you hear the loving word?
Pass it on
Like the singing of a bird?
Pass it on
Let its music live and grow
You have reaped what others
Pass it on.
‘Twas the sunshine of a smile
Pass it on.
Staying but a little while!
Pass it on.
April beam a little thing
Still it wakes the flowers of spring,
Makes the silent birds to sing
Pass it on.
Have you found the heavenly light?
Pass it on.
Souls are groping in the night,
Daylight gone
Hold thy lighted lamp on high,
Be a star in someone's sky,
Pass it on."
Henry Burton

Your friend,
Dorothy Valcàrcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus

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