We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
We may be the one who tries to hold it all together in the family. We figure that if we don't take care of things, they just won't be taken care of. So we rush around trying to make sure that everything is as it should be. We may fume that others don't pitch in and help. We may simmer in our own self-pity, as we silently hope that someone will notice that we need help. We may hurt others by lashing out unexpectedly or by blaming them.
Jesus dealt compassionately with a woman who behaved in a similar way. Jesus and the disciples "came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord's feet, listening to what he taught. But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, ‘Lord, doesn't it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.' But the Lord said to her, ‘My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her' " (Luke 10:38-42).
Martha deprived herself by trying to be available to everyone. She deprived herself of what she really needed, while playing the martyr. The result was resentment, self-pity, and indignation that no one came to her rescue. Whom have we hurt, ourselves included, by behaving as Martha did?
Keeping busy with the wrong things robs us of the even better things God has for us.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.