When it comes to texting, mine is a love/hate relationship.
On the hate side, a biggie for me, is the fact that texting removes the “face-to-face” element from our conversations. In a face-to-face, we have the added benefit of being able to read voice inflection and body language. Not so in a text! Another thing I’m not so fond of about texting is that it carries an undeniable expectation – that you will see it immediately upon its arrival – and an unmistakable tension – that something is wrong because you didn’t answer immediately. I also must confess that as a former language arts teacher, I lay some blame on texting for what is happening to our conventions of grammar and writing.
But then there’s the love side. I can’t totally hate texting because it’s such a helpful tool when it comes to staying in touch with others.
Non-intrusive. Texting allows me to check in on family members and friends to let them know I am thinking about them even while they are at work. Unlike a phone call that must be answered in the moment, a text can be seen and replied to at a more convenient time.
Quick. Just a few short words or a simple gif can convey a meaningful message.
Convenient. My phone may not always be in my pocket or right by my side, but it’s never very far away.
Another thing about texting that falls on the “love” side, is that it helps my husband and me stay connected when we’re apart. It’s become a valuable tool for helping to keep our marriage strong.
Truly, a couple of seconds is all it takes for me to let my husband know that he is on my mind, and I don’t have to be concerned about interrupting a meeting or other pressing work. Conversely, I don’t mind sharing with you how quickly I reach for my phone when I hear that little email tone while he is away. Anxiously I look, to see if it’s from him!
Whether you want to divulge your thoughts, declare your love, or express your gratitude to your spouse, texting is one non-intrusive, quick, and convenient way to do it.
Consider these 100 texts that make your spouse’s day as you begin to incorporate this valuable tool into your relationship.
Thinking of You
Can’t wait to get home… to see you!
I can’t wait to see you.
I’m having one of those days that make me realize how lost I’d be without you.
I just want to snuggle with you.
I know I’ll see you tonight, but right now I’m missing you!
I’ve been thinking about you all day!
How’s that project going at work today?
Thinking about you, and it’s making me smile.
Thinking of you… right now!
Just wanted to let you know _______________________.
You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
Hope you are having a great day. Can’t wait to see you later!
Hey there, handsome/beautiful.
I’m thinking about you this very minute.
Just wanted you to know that you are on my mind.
You are AMAZING. Thought you should know.
You must be tired. You've been running through my mind all day.
Wish you were here with me right now.
I’m your #1 fan. Go get ‘em!
I’m looking forward to having some time alone with you… soon.
Loving
I love you.
I am happy to be by your side forever and ever.
I can’t imagine my life without you.
I don't say it enough, but I want you to know that I love you.
I fall more in love with you with every day.
I love our life together.
If I had my life to live over, I would find you sooner so I could love you longer.
You will forever be my always.
I still fall for you every day.
P.S. I love you!
FYI: I love my man/woman.
I love you from my head to my toes.
Growing more and more in love with you every day.
Just in case you didn’t know, I will be loving you forever and always!
You are not just my husband/wife, you are my best friend. I love you so much.
I loved spending time together last night.
I love it when you _______________________.
Remember that time when we ___________________? I love you!
If I had to do it all over again, I would still choose you.
No matter what lies ahead, we’ll face it together.
I love being your wife/husband.
I’m so glad we’re in this together. I love you.
Truly, madly, deeply yours!
Thankful
God has given me a wonderful gift. He has made you mine.
I appreciate that you try to show me you love me in different ways. Thanks for ____________.
Even though I may not say it often enough, I do appreciate your hard work.
If there were more men/women like you in this world, it would be a better place.
So proud of you for working so hard.
I will forever be thankful to God for gifting me with you.
Thanks for being the best husband/wife.
Thank you for ____________________. I love you!
Thanks for always believing in me.
We’ve made some great memories together. Thinking of them and thankful for you.
What can I do to make your day easier?
You are a gift!
I really admire your ability to ________________.
I am so proud of you.
Thank you!
Thanks for being patient with me.
As long as I have you, I have everything I need!
You are the best wife/husband in the world.
Just wanted to hit the pause button today to tell you how grateful I am to be your husband/wife.
I know I don’t always do things right, but I’m trying because I love you. I will always keep trying. Thanks for being patient with me.
I love it when you _____________________.
Thank you for choosing every day to stay right here beside me.
Playful
Hey there beautiful/handsome.
Guess what???? I love you more than anything in the whole wide world.
I got you, Babe!
I had a dream about you, and I woke up smiling.
You make my heart sing!
You rock my world.
You were lookin’ good this morning.
Love you loads!
Miss your face.
Stop making me think about you. I can’t get anything done.
Let’s go do something we’ve never done before. How about tonight?
Your text messages bring a stupid smile to my face!
In a sea of people, my eyes will always search for you.
You are my greatest adventure.
Happiness is being married to your best friend.
Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my favorite.
I pledge to still grab your butt even when you’re old and wrinkly.
Grow old with me.
Roses are red. Violets are blue. I’m in love. With no one but YOU!
You’re the best (dishwasher-unloading, spider-killing, roast-making) husband/wife there is!
You put the smile on my face, the sparkle in my eyes, and the beat in my heart.
Still laughing about what you said last night….
Remember how we kissed (insert time and place)? I kind of want to do that now.
Remember that time when we __________________?
You are my superhero.
Apologetic
I’m sorry. You were right.
Sorry you are having a rough day.
Sorry I was weird last night. Can we start over?
Intimate
Last night was AMAZING!
Let’s have some fun tonight. Wink, wink!
Let’s make tonight all about you.
I’ll be waiting at the door when you get home!
You + me tonight??
You earned a massage when you get home tonight.
What do you think about putting the kids to bed early tonight?
Texting is a great way to stay in touch while you are apart. One brief message can reveal your deepest thoughts and stir the affections of your spouse.
Keep your connection strong by sending thoughtful and romantic texts. Let them know you are thinking of them, express your appreciation, bring up a fun memory, or share an inside joke.
It’s a little thing that can have a huge impact on your relationship.
Deborah Haddix is the author of Biblical Portrait of Grandparenthood: Discovering and Living Out God’s Design for Our Role. She also serves as co-director of Education and Resources at Christian Grandparenting Network’s Prayer Ministry. Deborah writes, blogs, speaks, and coaches on topics related to biblical grandparenting, other life relationships, and soul care. Read the blog and find resources at her website.
Deborah Haddix is the author of Soul Nourishment: Satisfying Our Deep Longing for God. She also serves as Prayer Resources, Education, and Training Coordinator for Christian Grandparenting Network. Deborah writes, blogs, speaks, and coaches on topics related to biblical grandparenting, other life relationships, and soul care. Read the blog and find resources at her website.