"See, I have called by name, Bezaleel…And I have filled him with the spirit of God, in wisdom, and in understanding, and in knowledge, and in all manner of workmanship." (Exodus 31:1-2)
Macy was one who some might label "supermom". She homeschooled a large family, was often pregnant, kept up a busy household, chauffeured her children to various church activities, and always had a smile on her face. Life was centered around her husband and children.
Her personality was that of a quiet nature, content to hover in the background of activity, prompting her children to move forward, while she took the role of encourager. Daylight hours were devoted to the academics, while nighttime saw her catching up on the household chores. Her life was indeed full!
Sometimes other mothers felt intimated by Macy's appearance of "having it all together."
"She always looks as though she's in control," one has said, "she would never understand MY struggles."
But may I ask, is she human? Does she have feelings? The very fact that she homeschools her children shows that she loves them, and thus possesses emotions. Maybe her quietness is really an effort to keep her head above water, taking life one step at a time, while concentrating only on what is immediately in front of her. Her smile could be a willingness to lean on the Lord's strength, and to depend on HIS grace.
Macy is no different than any other homeschooling mother. Just as God as called HER by name to home-educate her children, so He has called YOU by name. And if you are homeschooling by conviction, then God has definitely called you "by name."
"…but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise." (II Cor. 10:12)
God has given you children whom only YOU can homeschool…not Cleo, not Lucy, not Macy…only YOU! When you look to others, and get your eyes off the Lord, you hinder the work that He can do in YOUR life, and you give Satan a foothold for discouragement. Every family and every child is unique, as is God's Will and purpose for each life. When we look to and compare ourselves to others we are hindering our own hearts from heeding the Holy Spirit's promptings.
If Macy is a living, breathing being, I guarantee you that she has her own struggles. She just doesn't broadcast them. It's quite possible that she is leaning on God's grace to stay focused on the immediate, and it is God's peace that is giving the illusion of "having it all together." Maybe if you ask her for some time, you'll find that she is just as in need of support and encouragement as you are; and then you can stop comparing.
Homeschooling mother, if you are home-educating because of a conviction that it IS the Lord's Will for your life and your family, then He has called you "by name." And if He has called you by name, then He will fill you with the "Spirit of God", if you will only let Him.
Keep your eyes off others and stay focused on the One Who can sustain you. His wisdom, understanding, and knowledge are available to us all if we spend time in His Word and in prayer. Then, who knows, maybe your resting in God's grace and power will also give others the encouragement to do the same.
"But he that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord. For not he that commendeth himself is approved, but whom the Lord commendeth." (II Cor. 10: 17-18)
Maribeth is the mother of nine homeschooled children. (Four of which have graduated.) She is a regular columnist for the Eclectic Homeschool Online Premium website and enjoys sharing encouraging words of advice to help homeschool moms to "keep on, keeping on."