Until the last few years, I truly believed in the single soulmate theory. I felt God had designed one man whose beliefs, personality, talents, and weaknesses would mesh perfectly with those same areas in my life. Then I met Evelyn. This precious woman's soulmate died. They had been sweethearts since their teen years and had a wonderful marriage. After her husband's death, she immersed herself in church, and a couple of years later met a man who also won her heart. This man is her soulmate as well. They share a loving and exciting marriage just as she did with her first husband.
This leaves me to believe that while God does design the perfect spousal complement for our lives, perhaps more than one will fill the need if the first is taken by death. The second gentleman may not have been what Evelyn needed as a young woman, but he's what she needs now that she's in her 40s. Timing is always a key in God's plan for our life.
Terri
Someone once asked me if I believe in soul mates, and I told him yes. He proceeded to tell me he, too, believed in soul mates, but that sometimes soul mates don't work out. However, he added, God's second choice for us is better than our first choice.
I thought about what he said, and I've come to a conclusion. I still believe there are soul mates; however, I've seen people who just want to be married and who take the matter into their own hands instead of letting God take the lead. They end up marrying "Mr./Ms. Alright" instead of "Mr./Ms. Right." So, what happens to their real soulmate? Well, they either do the same or they get God's second choice for them.
If, for some reason, my own soulmate has either married someone else or has been hit by a bus, I think I'd be much more satisfied with God's second choice for me than my first choice for me.
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