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Former Call Girl: 'Fifty Shades' Glamorizes Pain of BDSM Lifestyle

  • Carrie Dedrick
    Religious persecution, missions, Christianity around the world
  • 2015 Mar 02
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A former call girl has spoken out about the physical and emotional pain that comes along with the BDSM lifestyle. 

 

Annie Lobert, who now shares her testimony through ministry I Am Second, said that the happy ending in “Fifty Shades of Grey” is “100 percent fiction.” 

 

Lobert wrote in a Charisma News piece that she got involved with BDSM after leaving a pimp that regularly abused her physically and sexually. 

 

“Greedy and hungry to finally be in control, I was curious and wanted to see what this BDSM lifestyle was all about, so I decided to take the call and try my hand at being the dominant,” Lobert wrote. 

 

“Many of my clients were obsessed with me and continued to call, because in their minds, a fantasy love/relationship had started.”

 

Lobert got to know her clients personally and believes that many turned to BDSM seeking love. 

 

“In all of my experience over the years with these men, one thing stands true: Underlying their desire to be dominated was a deep-seated hunger and need for love,” she wrote. “Many times their sexual desires stemmed from childhood abuse. They wanted to be cared for, watched for, disciplined and admired.”

 

“Fifty Shades of Grey” is a false representation of a painful lifestyle, Lobert says. As a call girl, Lobert saw not love, but broken trust. 

 

“When you cross the line and hurt someone emotionally and physically, it throws unknowns into the picture: a loss of security, a loss of trust, a loss of honor, a loss of commitment. Broken vows. If you are willing to hurt me physically and emotionally, what else are you willing to do to me? And if I ask you to stop—will you?” she wrote.

 

“Real Love doesn't dominate. Love doesn't push. Love's intent isn't to create pain. Love's intent is to create a relationship of peace, safety and security, emotionally and relationally when it comes to intimacy.”

 

 

Publication date: March 2, 2015

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