JANUARY 3

Need by Example

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. ECCLESIASTES 4:9

I shared with you yesterday about three little words that aren't always so easy to say: "I need you." But sometimes, all it takes to get those words flowing again is just a reminder of how many ways you truly do depend upon each other.

You need your spouse for:

•Honesty—Who else knows you so well and can give you such an honest perspective on things when you need it most?

•Variety—How black-and-white and one-dimensional would your life be without someone to add color and texture to it?

•Encouragement—Who still believes in you when others don't—including yourself? Who helps you remember your uniqueness and significance?

•Togetherness—Who else can multiply your joys, divide your sorrows and add to your experience with God by sharing it together?

•Counterbalance—When you're going too fast, who helps you put on the brakes? When you're afraid to take a risk, who encourages you to go for it?

•Understanding—When you don't want to talk, who can draw you out? Who else can force you to be real and authentic with your emotions?

Parenting—How could you raise your children without someone to temper your weaknesses, complement your blind spots and help reinforce
your positions?

•Romance—Who else can share your most intimate secrets, see you at your most vulnerable, yet allow you to express yourself without shame, with pure joy in return?

•Companionship—Who is the difference between doing things single-handedly and doing them together, as a couple?

You really do need each other. And God knew what He was doing when He gave you to one another.

DISCUSS

Make your own list of the ways you need each other, or prioritize the top five from the list above. Then be sure to share your list with each other.

PRAY

Thank God for giving you someone to experience life with—someone you need probably more than you know.  

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