Changing Their Tune
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity! PSALM 133:1
At one point, both our sons, Benjamin and Samuel, were students at the same university. One evening Samuel called home to talk, and he was interrupted by a young lady who came through the room and asked Samuel to let her talk to us. She said, "Did you hear what happened at the Campus Crusade meeting the other night?"
"No," we answered.
"Well," she started in, "first of all, Benjamin got up and shared how he was going to be taking a year off from school to go volunteer as a missionary in Estonia. Then, after he finished talking and sat down, Samuel stood up and told everyone what a phenomenal brother he had—how much he loved him and admired him, how much of a mentor he had been to him as a younger brother, how he had helped him make his way around as a freshman at college. Then Samuel sat down next to Benjamin, put his arms around him and just hugged him. It was so cool."
It was one of those moments when you sit back, take a deep breath and go, "Thank You, Lord! It has all been worth it."
These were the same sons who argued and fought each other so often that we often threatened to draw a line down the middle of their bedroom and declare each side a foreign country, off-limits to the other person. Barbara and I had our moments when they were teenagers when we wondered if they would ever get along.
If you find yourself in a similar situation—with children who fight like competitors in the World Federation of Wrestling—I want to encourage you that there is hope. Pray and ask God to knit their hearts together. God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly beyond all that you ask or think.
Talk about your children's relationships with one another. Write down one developmental action step that you want to train each of your children with.
Pray for perseverance and wisdom as you continue training and teaching your children.