Biblical Sexuality | Song of Solomon 8:8-10
Song of Solomon 8:8-10 We have a little sister, and her breasts are not yet grown. What shall we do for our sister on the day she is spoken for? If she is a wall, we will build towers of silver on her. If she is a door, we will enclose her with panels of cedar. I am a wall, and my breasts are like towers. Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment.
Teaching and training in the area of sexuality is first and foremost a family’s responsibility. Yesterday we considered how a family protects and honors their children who remain pure, but what is the family to do when she gives in to temptation?
“If she is a door,” that is, if she is promiscuous and open to the advances of men, we will “enclose her with panels of cedar.” When our sons and daughters demonstrate that they cannot handle their sexuality, they are to be restricted. This is never to be abusive and, of course, the language here is figurative, but the point is that as parents we must protect our children from hurting themselves. We must love our children enough to be involved in their sexual training.
Notice, at the end of the passage, Solomon’s bride says, “I am a wall.” She has remained strong and refused to compromise. She says that her “breasts are like towers.” This is not a physical description. She is saying that her purity is the foundation of self-respect. Thus, she says, I am not bringing into my relationship the baggage of past sexual sin. Instead she brings contentment to her husband.
Father, may we teach our children well. Guard their hearts and their bodies. Help them to be free of sinful baggage and bring contentment to their spouses. In Jesus’ name. Amen.