Now, how do you get out there? Beside Christian singles groups that are everywhere these days (groups that have Bible studies, mission trips, socials, lunches, etc.) there are also meet-up groups that are based on something you like to do. Maybe you like to hike, walk, talk, cook, politics or wrestle alligators - it doesn't matter. The point is to find others who have similar interests, and then join them. All the while praying for your own growth in the Lord while God is preparing someone for you.

Yes, waiting is good as you're saying God, I trust you for all things. But wait with intentionality. Wait using this time of singleness to grow to be more like Christ. Wait to use this season to reach more for Christ. Wait to see God's best for you. And I look at it like this: if you never date or ever get married, then you will have grown so much in Christ you won't care anymore. Christ will be enough.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).

HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is … Kris Swiatocho, the President and Director of TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries and FromHisHands.com Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. She is also the author of three books.

DISCLAIMER: We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals. We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the twenty-first century. We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life's questions, and it's where we'll go for guidance when responding to your questions. Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately.

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Publication date: September 26, 2013