3 . Negotiation – “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Phil.2:4). Perhaps one of the main reasons we get involved in conflict in the first place is that we want our own way and don’t see anything but our own desires. This Christmas when you find yourself getting upset with someone, ask yourself what the other person might actually want and look for a way to meet a need for him or her. Inquiring graciously about the other person’s interests, rather than simply pushing for our own interests can help keep a conflict from causing damage.
I still enjoy Rockwell paintings. I have an entire wall in my home dedicated to my favorites. I still strive for peace in my family, but not by recreating a perfect Norman Rockwell scene there. And I no longer routinely escape when the peace is interrupted by discord. Instead, I seek to glorify God through my response to the conflicts. May your relationships be more harmonious this Christmas and your best gift to others be that of peacemaking!
Annette Friesen is the Home School Specialist for Peacemaker® Ministries, an international ministry committed to equipping and assisting Christians and their churches to respond to conflict biblically. Annette and Rick homeschooled their three children all through their school years. Currently they are serving on the board of the Utah Christian Home School Association.
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