Second, we must detach ourselves from their problems. Many Sufferers want to symbiotically attach themselves to others, causing us to feel drained. We must unhook, caring from a distance. We must step back and take a fresh look at what we’re doing, and whether we are truly offering legitimate assistance.

Finally, we must give back responsibility. Detaching from others can be a biblically sound enterprise. The Apostle Paul talks at length about responsible behavior. While we are to “carry one another’s burdens,” (Galatians 6: 2) these are burdens they cannot carry alone. We are called to help those with legitimate challenges who cannot carry their burdens alone. But we must also realize we are called to “carry our own load,” discovering that by doing so we become stronger. (Galatians 6: 5)

Interacting with Sufferers is difficult, but can be much easier when we get our boundaries straightened out. Learn to give the emotional load back to Sufferers and you may find a desire to be around them again. Carrying their load frustrates you and enables them to remain weak and helpless. Treat them as if they are capable, because more often than not, they are!