Janet:  I know. I am very happy with my life, but there is still a part of me that longs for companionship, a godly man to grow old with. But only someone who loves the Lord.

Kathleen:  Right, right. A lady saw me on television and e-mailed me and said – you could just read the hurt in her life – she said, “Please tell whoever you talk to it’s much, much better being single than being in the wrong marriage.” She told me, “I thought this man was a Christian, but now, I’m living in hell.” She absolutely was devastated, you could tell.

Janet: A pastor at my church back in D.C. used to say, “Better to be single than married to a jerk.” 

Kathleen:  That is it exactly. I was going through a period of time around 30-ish when it was really hard being single. I was also going to a prayer group. By the time I got out of there – they were talking about how difficult their marriages were – I thought, “I am doing just fine.” You know, I think that’s what Paul’s talking about. It’s better to be content. You hear a lot about married women who are lonely too. Their husbands are not what they thought. Their marriages are very painful; their husbands say very hurtful things.

Janet:  Speaking of Paul, he says it’s better to marry than burn with passion. How do we deal with this? We have passions, and want to marry, but it’s not so easy to just rustle up a husband. I mean they had arranged marriages back then. How do we handle the physical stuff?

Kathleen:  That is absolutely a process, because I do not have a perfect life. Some people haven’t “kissed a lot of frogs.” I did, and so it’s kind of like eating chocolate cake. You know what it tastes like and so you have to deal with that.  But as a believer, if you love Him with all your heart, soul and mind, if you have passion for God, if the Holy Spirit dwells in you, then you can have a passion for purity. I don’t understand women who are sleeping around a lot, then in church the next day. I know women like that. They’ve gotten themselves into a trap. They’re so dependent on a man. I understand that – I once was dependent on a man to make me happy. But it doesn’t take long to realize that your joy has to be in the Lord. Psalm 16:11 says, “In His presence is fullness of joys.” In His presence.