- 2015May 26
I’m not sure why I was feeling particularly brave this day. Normally, I would carefully adjust my schedule in order to avoid this type of thing. Meaning, normally I waited for my husband to come home before I left the house…..with the kids…..alone.
I’m only slightly joking…keep reading and you will understand why.
However this day I decided I could do it.
I went to Target.
On my own.
With all 4 of my girls.
I am not sure what I actually thought I was going to buy or where I would put it, considering my cart was full before I even walked through the doors! But on this day, for whatever reason, I decided I could do it and I could do it alone.
I can only imagine how we must have looked…..A five year old tugging at my left thigh. A three year old waddling on my right and a shopping cart loaded with two infant car seats.
I was that mom. The mom you watch in awe and amazement with a twinge of sympathy and pity.
We were strolling the aisles pretty seamlessly when somewhere between the cereal and toothbrushes it happened.
The moment all mom’s dread… “I have to go potty!”
I tried to ignore her 1st three cries. But as I watched her hand intensely cup her bottom, I knew I was in trouble.
We scurried through the aisles back to the front of the store and reached the entrance to the restroom.
A sign read, “No shopping carts allowed beyond this point”
Oh my! I began to play the scenarios in my head:
Scenario 1- Remove my two infant seats and carry my twins one by one into the restroom, while towing along the two older girls. Sit the seats on the floor outside of the stall…line the paper and load the 3 year old….wash hands and head back out to the cart.
Scenario 2 - Leave my cart, my twins, and my 5 year old outside of the restroom…..
….ok clearly I only had one option!
I have been forced to develop the skill of creative problem solving, but I was out of options. Meanwhile my three-year-old’s hand was getting tighter and we were all in tears, helplessly standing outside the door.
I took a final scan of the store. I guess I thought one final look before I began the process might give me some new insight….Nothing.
Finally I whispered a desperate prayer, “Lord, help me!”
It was in that moment that out of nowhere I saw a familiar face strolling towards me!
I practically threw my cart in her direction as I yelled, “I’ll explain when I get back….”
I’m not sure I’ve recovered from this experience. However it has surely served its purpose. I often recall this experience to remind myself…..
God answers prayers
…..Sometimes he’s just waiting for us to ask.
- 2014Mar 17
I recently read this and immediately recognized it as one of the truest statements ever…
Have you ever felt like this? I not have phrased it as eloquently as the above, but now that I have children the notion of perfection is laughable.
Pre-kids I had a list of “I will never’s.” And to be honest, those “never’s” have gradually become understandable exceptions.
“I will never let my kids play outside all day in their pj’s.”
Now I smile because I am the mother next door I never thought I’d be.
I will never let my house become dirty and look like “so and so’s.”
Isn’t dirty such a relative word?
My children will never talk to me like that.
I definitely demand respect from my children, but a healthy debate with my seven-year old is sometimes fun and a welcomed challenge!
The realities of motherhood often reduce a multitude of parenting rules down to the bare essentials in areas that are more preference than standard.
So, I have decided to turn my failing list of “nevers” into a growing list of commitments I can actually keep!
A list of “I wills.”
I asked others to join me and here is what we have come up with:
I WILL give my kids the good morning hug – EVERY MORNING!!!
I WILL pray with the kids before they walk out of the door for school. Even if I’m so irritated with their behavior that I want to pull my hair out. Maybe I should say ESPECIALLY when I’m so irritated.
I WILL ALWAYS dance with my children, no matter how loud they scream, beg and plead for me to stop!!
I WILL randomly enter their classrooms whether necessary or not.
I WILL let my baby wear high waters in public…as long as they look like capris!
I WILL ALWAYS let my daughters know they are valued.
I WILL make sure the kids go to the bathroom before leaving the house, even if they say they don’t have to go.
I WILL be honest with my children. I will tell them things like, “That’s not the right top for you,” or “You really need to brush your teeth!”
I WILL ALWAYS know the names of my daughter’s 3 best friends even if it means learning them every 3 days!
I WILL continue to decide my children’s outfits based on my body temperature at the moment.
Your turn! To add to this list of committments visit here! There is comfort in giving up and starting fresh with others who understand!