But that pastor gave me the green light, so I didn’t pull any punches. Then, at the end of the service, I gave an altar call for people struggling with sexual issues. No one moved at first. Then the dam broke, and they lined up three to four deep at the altar…”

 

Let’s Get Honest Here

 

A few years ago a friend of mine told me of a small men’s retreat he attended in Idaho. When the men were challenged in the area of sexual purity, the biggest, toughest looking guy in the room stood up and said “I’m struggling with porn and I know some of you guys are too, so stand up if you are and let’s deal with this!”

 

Half of the forty men in the room came to their feet.  

 

Accepting the fact that at least half of Christian men (pastors, music ministers, missionaries and those in children’s ministry included) have an issue with porn is a big pill to swallow. We want to see the church in a positive light; we don’t want to picture little Jenny’s daddy “relieving himself” to pictures of naked women (or men, if his bent is with homosexuality). We don’t want the problem to be this big, because the church is in serious trouble if it is.

 

Another Man Speaks

 

The following excerpt is from an open letter Chuck Swindoll posted on his Insight for Living Website not long ago:

 

“The most recent studies available suggest that one out of every two people-that's 50 percent of the people sitting in our pews, are looking at and/or could be addicted to Internet pornography… Truth be told, that statistic could be even higher…

 

Stop and imagine the ugly but very real possibility of some of your own elders and deacons leaving your meetings and going home to surf porn. Think about youth leaders viewing it one minute, and leading a small group with your kids thirty minutes later. It's ruining marriages, destroying relationships, harming youth, and hurting the body of Christ. You hardly need to be reminded that fallen pastors and priests did not "suddenly" fall. More often than not, pornography played a role in their downward spiral.


My friend, it's time to do something about it. In fact, we need to start today. Making a difference requires action…  Our churches are in trouble. This is no time to simply wait and pray.”

 

The Bottom Line

 

In my ministry to those who struggle with porn and sex addiction, I see many marriages and families on the brink of divorce. Most guys wait until their dirty little secret spins out of control into a big traumatic mess before they do something about it. What starts out as “just me and pictures” can destroy a family. Sadly, there are some marriages that don’t make it.

 

The church needs to expose this snake and cut off its head before more lives are ruined. In upcoming articles we’ll provide you with effective strategies for doing just that.  

 

Mike Genung struggled with sex addiction for 20 years before God set Him free in 1999. He is the director of blazinggrace.org, a ministry to the sexually broken which also helps churches deal with the black plague of porn. You can email Mike at: mike@blazinggrace.org