Human beings are masters of delusion. Without coming clean, it’s hard to find healing. And after living a few decades, most of us have developed a pretty good ability to lie to ourselves. And it was beginning to dawn on me that I hadn’t told myself the whole truth about my relationship with Mary.


1Richard Rohr, "Everything Belongs:  The Gift o Contemplative Prayer (New York: Crossroad, 1999), 43.
2Byron Katie with Stephen Mitchell, "Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life" (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2003).  This five-step process is not identified with any religion, Christian or otherwise; Katie's web site clarifies that she "developed The Work completely out of her own experiences.  Any similarities to other systems [of belief] are purely coincidental."  The author's personal experience with The Work does not constitute an endorsement of "Loving What Is," Byron Katie or her recommended resources.
4Chris Thurman, "The Lies We Believe" (Nashville:  Thomas Nelson, 2003), 5.


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A graduate of Wheaton College, Dale Hanson Bourke earned an MBA from the University of Maryland and formerly served as editor of Today's Christian Woman magazine and publisher of Religion News Service.  She is now the president of PDI, a marketing and strategy consulting firm specializing in work with nonprofit ogranizations.  Dale lives just outside Washington, DC, with her husband,Tom, and they are the parents of two sons.  For more information, visit www.secondcalling.org.