Perry makes you really think about the issues that affect marriage, and the choices we make as we attempt to work it out.  His message?  Think very carefully before you point the finger—and before you leap.  His characters talk about the “80-20” rule, whereby couples often ditch their marriage to find the “20 percent” they are missing, only to discover they no longer have the “80 percent” they already had.

“I can deal with a lot of things, but this, I’m not strong enough to deal with,” says one character, at the film’s climax.  “You don’t have to be strong by yourself,” her husband answers, joining her tears.  “Let me be strong for you.”  This is the attitude Perry wants to impart, and it’s a crucial one.  Spouses need each other, but they have to be willing to give of themselves and be vulnerable, first.  And no matter what, there’s always hope.

The best line of the film, which Jackson’s character delivers, is this: “The greatest achievement for anyone is to love God, yourself and others.”  Sure, it’s corny, but it’s also true.  And it’s an important message for the many marriages facing similar struggles offscreen.

DVD EXTRAS:

  • Janet Jackson:  Return of an Icon
  • Reflections on Getting “Married”
  • The Music of “Married”
  • Also from Lionsgate (previews)

CAUTIONS:

  • Drugs/Alcohol:  Characters drink wine in several scenes.
  • Language/Profanity:  Occasional profanities and obscenities.  Also, rude insults like “ho,” “skank,” etc. are tossed at one character.
  • Sexual Content/Nudity:  No nudity or sex scenes.  Married couples kiss, snuggle and discuss/argue about sex, venereal disease, adultery and betrayal.  A spouse flirts with another woman then later, seen from the hallway, sneaks into her bedroom late.  Two men who appear to be gay make catty comebacks.
  • Violence:  A man, infuriated by a revelation of adultery, lunges for his wife’s neck before being stopped.  A woman, lost in the mountains, worries for her safety (but no harm comes).