Symbiotic Accountability: Paul's Recommendation to Thessalonian Men
- Friday, April 11, 2008
Spiritual independence is an oxymoron. The key word here is moron.
“My relationship with God is personal,” is a common refrain. I hear this from men who either don’t have the spine to accept responsibility or to admit a fault, or both. As a men’s pastor it is the verbal equivalent of a skunk facing south with its tail raised: it’s code for “Get out of my space, or else.” There are lots of reasons men respond this way. Shame, selfishness, ignorance, wounds, and defects produced by a sinful nature are the major culprits. But for the man who has experienced the slimy pits of self sufficiency, been broken by his sin, awakened by grace and tasted God’s goodness, this reaction is more than counterproductive. It invites God’s discipline.
God’s man is designed to live interdependently with another brother. This accountability is a locking of arms that grows stronger over time. The myth is that deep spiritual maturity should require less accountability over time. It certainly sounds good. Then again, most things the Evil One whispers do at first.
This “symbiotic accountability” is highlighted in Paul’s exhortation to the Thessalonian church. Reconnaissance by Paul’s protégé Timothy showed good spiritual progress and his reports were off the charts. Their report card according to I Thessalonians 3:6-9 was:
What do you say to disciples like this? Listen closely to how Paul manages the news and responds to the men in Thessalonica who might be feeling like they’ve got the Jesus thing down.
“Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you, we urge you in the Lord Jesus to do this more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told and warned you” (1 Thessalonians 4:1-6).
Red alert! Warning! Personal space being invaded!
The message from Paul to the men of Thessalonica was unmistakable:
- “I affirm you and your progress to this point.”
- “I am not letting you stay comfortable.”
- “I am focused on the next area of spiritual integrity.”
- “I am in your spiritual life to stretch you.”
- “I am going to invade your space in Jesus’ name.”
- “I am asking and urging you to keep stretching spiritually.”
- “I see an area you need to work on—keep your togas down!”
- “I am going to call it like I see it.”
- “I do not need an invitation or a crisis to speak up.”
If I were a Thessalonian man I might push back and get in Paul’s face. “What authority do you have to get into my business? Isn’t that between me and the Lord?” Paul knows this and that is why he says, “I ask you, I urge you “in the Lord Jesus…by the authority of the Lord Jesus.” In other words, “in the Lord Jesus, your business is my business and my business is your business.”
Brother to brother, believer to believer, we are deputized by Jesus and given the authority in Him to firmly and gently encourage a brother to line his life up with his identity and responsibility as God’s man. It’s not about the messenger, his character, or even his delivery. It’s about who he represents, the truthfulness of his observation, and his faithfulness to God’s purpose for the relationship.
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