What God's Man Can Do About Bullying
- Thursday, January 09, 2014
Imagine being 6’ 5” and more than 300 pounds, a human tractor capable of plowing holes up the middle for football running backs and protecting quarterbacks from agile defensive lineman. Now imagine being educated at Stanford. A man with brains and brawn.
At a glance, a man of this stature could never become the target of harassment and bullied to the point of depression and resignation. Yet, Jonathan Martin, an NFL offensive lineman for the Miami Dolphins recently walked out of the locker-room, and perhaps his football career, because of the treatment that afflicted him at the hand of his fellow teammates. I’m glad he did and put bullying into the spotlight because bullying is not just for kids and it’s costing people their lives.
I read a recent article about several college-age women who were bullied to death, shamed into suicide after classmates posted illicit photos on social media sites while they were drunk, drugged or both. Young men, disconnected from empathy, abusing unsuspecting women and getting away with it, while the victims try to survive the torment from peers. It’s sad, but after learning more about bullying, I believe it’s more pervasive than these top news stories.
Bullying starts with gossip, “joking around,” sarcastic comments that escalate into verbal and physical threats, aggression and violent behaviors. Bullying is defined as a form of harassment, purposeful attempt to control another with physical or verbal abuse.
One report said bullying is the most common type of violence in contemporary society. Here are some startling statistics:
- 1 in 3 students, grades 6-10 are affected by bullying
- An estimated 160,000 children miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation
- 35% kids have been threatened online
- 40% bullying boys had three or more arrests by 30 years old
- 75% of school shootings linked to bullying
- 64% children don’t report it.
What can God’s men do about bullying?
- Expect it...always -- Regardless of age, we are all vulnerable to bullying tactics. Jesus told us in John 16:33 that “in this world, you will have trouble,” so we need to expect it and not be ignorant about it.
- Recognize it...early -- Don’t condone bullying you see on TV, in a movie or in your life; instead point it out as a teaching example of what not to do. Here’s an example:
The other day, while taking my daughter and friends home from school, I heard them chatting about other girls at school, not at all flattering. One of the friends stayed silent. Recognizing the gossiping poison, I had to say something, “I’ll bet it’s really hard being a girl at your school.” The silent friend spoke up sheepishly, “Yes, it is.”
Merely identifying this fact brought the conversations to a close.
- Endure it...wisely -- Jesus tells us in Luke 6:27-28 “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” If you see or experience bullying behaviors, the loving thing to do is to pray for the bully, and share God’s love, and don’t repay the slanderous words with bombs of your own. Paul wrote in I Corinthians 4: 12-13 “When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it; when we are slandered, we answer kindly.”
And, if unkind words escalate into abusive behaviors that control you or someone else, the compassionate thing to do is report the bully to authorities.
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