Rest assured that your child is in heaven. You don’t need to worry about whether or not the child you aborted is in heaven, since the Bible indicates that Jesus has mercy on all children who die. Believe that Jesus has made a way for your child to be with Him in heaven, and look forward to meeting your child when you get there, since your child is in the presence of perfect love and will therefore be forgiving and accepting of you when you meet.

Honor your child’s memory with memorials. Ask God to guide you to the best ways of memorializing your child to honor the memory of him or her. Consider ways such as: naming your child, planting a tree or placing flowers on your church’s altar in memory of your child, placing a memorial stone in a cemetery or garden, releasing balloons after prayer to symbolize your newfound healing and hope, and holding a simple memorial service for your child with trusted friends and family in attendance.

Dedicate yourself to serving God by serving others in ways that your experiences healing from abortion have prepared you to do. God always blesses people so that they can carry His love forward by blessing others. So don’t let your healing be the end of the story of how God has worked in the aftermath of your abortion. When you dedicate yourself to helping others (from children in need to other women who are healing from abortion experiences), God will use your efforts to bring about powerful change for the better in people’s lives. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you tell others about what you’ve learned throughout your recovery process. Listen to the Spirit’s guidance every day so you can discern the best ways to serve others, perhaps by: volunteering time or donating money to a local pregnancy center, talking with other women who are hurting from abortion experiences and supporting them in prayer, sponsoring a child through a world mission organization to help that child get out of poverty, or volunteering to care for children in your church’s nursery or read to children at a local school.

Adapted from Cradle My Heart: Finding God’s Love After Abortion, copyright 2012 by Kim Ketola. Published by Kregel Publications, Grand Rapids, Mich.,  

Kim Ketola is a sought-after writer and motivational speaker with the Ruth Graham and Friends conference. After 30 years in the broadcasting industry, she founded a nonprofit organization through which she presents professionally accredited conferences to equip counselors and help individuals recover from the emotional and spiritual wounds of abortion. Kim lives in Atlanta, Georgia. Visit her website at:

Whitney Hopler is a freelance writer and editor who serves as both a contributing writer and the editor of’s site on angels and miracles. Contact Whitney at: to send in a true story of an angelic encounter or a miraculous experience like an answered prayer.

Publication date: January 17, 2013