“Mirror, mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all?” Sound familiar? The wicked queen in Snow White isn’t the only one asking this question, if I’m not careful I can spend too much time obsessing about my reflection. 

Ironically, serenity arrives when I take my eyes off of the mirror. Self-absorption often fuels my hunger for adoration and recognition, leading to pride.

One way to diagnose your sensitivity on this matter is to ask a few questions. 

  • Am I preoccupied with how and what everyone else is doing? 
  • Am I jealous when another gets an impressive house, an attractive spouse, or stunning new clothes?
  • Where does my mind automatically drift when I’m not thinking about anything specific?

A self-centered attitude defeats contentment, and it keeps us in the downward spiral of discouragement. Humility puts others first and stops the exhausting effort of focusing on proving my value to others. 

"O LORD, my heart is not conceited. My eyes do not look down on others. I am not involved in things too big or too difficult for me.  Instead, I have kept my soul calm and quiet. My soul is content as a weaned child is content in its mother's arms” Psalms 131:1-2 (GW).

4. I live more for eternity than this world. 

The pleasure of heaven awaits us. It’s where we were created to live—it’s home. But most of us live as though this world is our abode. 

A misconception of heaven is often the reason we grip earth. Our image of the wedding feast in heaven is often a vision of shuffling around in a choir robe holding a white styrofoam cup filled with lime green sherbet punch. The feast before us consists of a ham roll, a stalk of celery, and for those of us who are Italian, a meatball. The music we dislike at church is playing in the background, and everyone looks a bit zombie-like.

We’ve got it all wrong!! This is going to be an ENORMOUS PARTY. Think along the lines of the movie, “My Big Fat Greek Wedding.” This is going to be the celebration of all celebrations filled with music, dancing, laughter, singing, and great non-caloric chocolate cake. Ok, I’m making that part up, but I’m dreaming big!!

Then comes the best part “And He shall wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there shall no longer be any death; there shall no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away" Revelation 21:4 (NAS). 

Did you catch that? No more need for waterproof mascara-ever! No more cancer, guilt, gossip, bad breath, or dreary board meetings. This place looks, smells, tastes, and sounds glorious. 

And that’s why it’s important to spend our time here keeping our eyes and thoughts on eternity. “Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom” Psalms 90:12 (NIV).

A delightful peace floods our lives when we acquire a wise heart, because it has certainty about the future. A wise heart knows their Redeemer lives, and He is waiting to caress them with heavenly pleasures. 

I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait!

Copyright © 2012 Laura Petherbridge. All rights reserved

Laura Petherbridge is an international author and speaker who serves couples and single adults with topics on relationships, divorce prevention, singleness, and divorce recovery. She is the author of When “I Do” Becomes “I Don’t”—Practical Steps for Healing During Separation and Divorce, and a featured expert on the DivorceCare DVD series. Her newest book The Smart Stepmom is coauthored with Ron Deal. Her website is www.Laurapetherbridge.com.

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Publication date: November 23, 2012