Make Christ your first love even after you’re married. If you and your spouse are overly concerned with trying to meet your own needs and desires, your marriage will be smothered in the process. But if you both focus on serving each other because you love Jesus and want to His follow His call to selflessness, your marriage will thrive.

Serve others. Make service to others a regular part of your lifestyle. The world is full of hurting people, and Jesus is calling you to help them. Jesus set you free not just for your own benefit, but also so you can help others. Take your job to minister to those in need seriously. Ask God to help you see it as a privilege rather than a burden. Remember that your call to serve goes beyond just the people in your own family or circle of friends. Keep focusing outward. Don’t use your family responsibilities or any other circumstance as an excuse to ignore the greater call on your life, which is to pour yourself out radically for the lost, dying, needy, and oppressed. Pray for God to show you which specific people He wants you to help at what times, so you don’t become overwhelmed and focus where He wants you to focus.

Hold a sacred ceremony to declare your commitment to God. Schedule a time when you can be alone with God and express your decision to live a set-apart life for Him. Celebrate Communion and sign a confession that explains the commitments you’re making to God.

Adapted from Set-Apart Femininity: God’s Sacred Intent for Every Young Woman, copyright 2008 by Leslie Ludy. Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Or.,  


Leslie Ludy, author of Authentic Beauty, is also a speaker and musician. She and husband, Eric, are founders of RGeneration, a nonprofit organization designed to provide spiritual training for youth. They coauthored When God Writes Your Love Story and are guests for programs such as Josh McDowell Radio, Beverly LaHaye Today, and the Moody Broadcast Network.