When the phone call came in the middle of the night, Chuck felt as if his life were over. Joe, high on drugs, had been arrested for armed robbery. As the jail cell door clanged shut on his son, Chuck closed and locked the door of his heart. The price of love had proved too great, and he vowed never to pay it again.

Is there any greater pain than that of the betrayal of a loved one? I think not. And most of us will experience it—and possibly even perpetrate it—to one degree or another, in our lifetime. Divorce, abandonment, disappointment, disillusionment, rejection, abuse—not to mention the growing ease with which we “dispose” of unwanted lives for the sake of convenience—all are prevalent in modern society. And they don’t take a vacation for Valentine’s Day.

On a holiday that’s supposed to be centered around hearts and flowers, why are so many hearts broken and so many flowers wilted? Why are so many people starving for love, yet never finding it?

I believe one of the primary reasons is that somewhere along the way, they paid the price of love—and decided never to do it again. They bought into the lie that love was all about finding someone else to meet their needs and to make them happy. When the object of their “love” failed to make the grade, they slammed the door and swore never to try again. The price of love was just too high.

But where did we get the idea that love was free? True, God’s love is just that—at least for us. But it certainly wasn’t free for Him. He gave His only Son, remember? In turn, Jesus gave His life—and it was not a painless or easy gift. As Christians, isn’t that the example of love we should be following?

If so, then we should expect love to cost us something. If the focus of our pursuit of love is self-fulfillment, then we will never find the love we are so desperately seeking. But when we follow the model God has laid out for us by asking ourselves how we can give of ourselves to show love to someone else, then we are surely on the right path—and love will soon find us.

It has been said that he is no fool who gives up what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose. Are you looking for love? Then why not make a commitment this Valentine’s Day to give yourself away as a model of selfless love in someone else’s life? Then, unlike Lisa or Chuck, you will have opened the door to gaining the love that lasts forever.

Finding real love will cost you everything, but the rewards will more than compensate the price. And you just may help someone else find love along the way….


Kathi Macias, popular speaker and prolific author, is an Angel-award winning writer who has published nearly thirty books, including BEYOND ME: LIVING A YOU-FIRST LIFE IN A ME-FIRST WORLD and her latest release, HOW CAN I RUN A TIGHT SHIP WHEN I’M SURROUNDED BY LOOSE CANNONS? Whether keyboarding her latest book, keynoting a conference, or riding on the back of her husband's Harley, Kathi “Easy Writer” Macias is a lady on a mission to communicate God’s vision. Her insightful words—filled with passion, humor and soul nourishment—refresh audiences from all walks of life. To learn more about Kathi or to book her for your next event, visit www.KathiMacias.com.