As long as we’re drawing what we need from another person, we are drawing from a well that will never satisfy, and we will keep coming up thirsty and longing for more. We will find ourselves empty, dry, parched. Only when we surrender that hole in our heart to Jesus, will it finally be filled.

A Perfect Picture of Love 

If you’ve been wounded by what you thought was love, it’s time we get a definition out there of what love really is.

The Bible's most detailed description of love is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. It is read at weddings, quoted in cards, and held up as God’s ideal instruction for us in how to love each other: 

"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never give up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Love will last forever…” (NLT). 

Although that passage serves as instruction and a goal for us in how to love others, it is interesting that it describes perfectly God’s love toward us. So think about it. We are to love others as we are loved by God. None of us can get it absolutely right, though. So how can we expect another human being to get it right all the time toward us? If we were to focus on how God loves us, we would recognize the imposters when they arrive. We would have more realistic expectations of others and, I believe, we would guard our hearts a little more closely.

If you are looking for love right now, don't settle for less any longer. Set your standard higher by placing any claim of love next to the sacrificial love of Jesus. Lay a description of that man or parent or friend against the Bible's description of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Then ask God to show you His idea of love and protect you from anything that falls short of it.

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of several books including When Women Walk Alone (more than 110,000 copies sold), Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs, and When a Woman Overcomes Life's Hurts, on which this article is based. For more on her books and ministry or for free articles to strengthen your soul or your marriage, see

Publication date:
April 4, 2013