He was only nine, but he knew the answer to the question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"

"I want to be a famous football player, like Brett Favre."  Spoken like a typical fourth grade whose high point each day is the twenty-minute football game with his friends during recess.  At nine, anything seems possible, and fame and fortune are his imaginary future.  It's to be expected. Sadly, we've also come to expect that many of the "stars" our children admire end up falling far short of honor, as has Favre in the revelations of his sexting and sexual harrassment charges.

We also expect that as our children mature into a teenagers and young adults, that they will be grounded in priorities both deeper and more realistic than wanting to be like the rich and famous. And it's our task as parents, teachers, and family friends to help him get there.

Recent survey data suggests, however, that it's not happening.  The top two goals for today's 18-25 year olds are "to get rich" and "to be famous. " We can smile indulgently when a nine-year old wants to be rich and famous, but we should be deeply worried when we hear the same refrain from an 18, 21, or 25 year old.

Something's missing during those crucial years of character formation, from nine to 18—we're simply not communicating the right priorities to our children.

Our media culture, unfortunately, reinforces the wrong idea: celebrities, pop singers, sports stars, and even Internet wizards garner the headlines for their "success," measured in dollars and YouTube popularity.

The reality is that our children will be less happy in life if fame and fortune are their goals. And it's up to us, the adults who love them and care for them, to tell them that.  More importantly, we've got to teach them the priorities that do lead to lifelong happiness.

How to save your family by prioritizing the "happiness factors"

Compelling new research shows that the choices we make have "substantial effects" on our happiness, especially over the long haul.

So what makes for a happy life?

Prioritizing our relationships, for one.  God created us to find our deepest joy in Him and our relationships with others, rather than money, self-absorption, and fame. And the research bears this out: the happiest people in life are those who prioritize family relationships and "altruistic" goals (e.g. doing good for others, volunteering, being kind); those who are driven by money and individual career success are simply less happy.