Everybody Else Wants to Be the Parent

Since our culture doesn’t want to follow God’s example of parenting, we are left with parents who are losing their right to actually parent their own children. In fact, everybody else wants to be the parent.

In reference to a legal case involving a homeschooling family being wrongly charged with neglect in the medical treatment of their child, Michael Farris of Home School Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) stated: “Parents, not the state or its doctors, have the fundamental, God-given right to choose and direct the medical care that their children receive.”2 You would think this was a given, but we still have to fight for these God-given rights on a regular basis. Why? Because everyone else wants to and believes they can do a better job of parenting your child.

I was just on the phone with my 17-year-old’s doctor, who asked me to hand the phone to my daughter in order to ask her personally about her illness. While the doctor had her on the phone, she asked my daughter several other “routine” invasive questions that were meant to be private between the doctor and the child. Obviously, I was in the way, unnecessary, and worse, made to feel like an intruder in the private world of my teen. What happened to parents talking to doctors about our children and making decisions for our children?

We are becoming a child-led society. We all know what a child-run household looks like—it doesn’t work! To have a child-led society will not work any better either, because it is not God’s design.

Amelia Harper, author of “Are Parents Really Necessary? A Guide to Preschool Education,” wrote the following account after attending a Head Start meeting in her community:

“For nearly two hours, they discussed various issues regarding the health, education, welfare, and success of our tiniest scholars. Then I noticed a remarkable thing: the word parents had barely been mentioned. This got me to thinking, “Are parents really necessary?” If I were a disinterested observer at the meeting, I would certainly conclude that they are not. I would conclude that the government alone had the responsibility to provide for the future of its citizens and that parents were simply accidental providers of a human commodity: the youth of our nation. In fact, from the tone of the speeches, I would conclude that parents were often obstacles to a child’s education and that his greatest chance for success was to be removed from the home as soon as possible and placed in the state’s more nurturing bosom.”

My friend Marla Nowak, who has two children with Down syndrome, expressed similar ideas when she informed me of this important bit of frightening news about her parental rights:

“When our son with Down syndrome was younger, we made a deliberate decision to install extra locks up high on exit doors to prevent our wanderer from leaving the house. We had to decide if other threats from inside the house, like escape during a fire, were more likely than the very immediate threat that our child could walk out the front door in the middle of the night and go who knows where. But personal decisions like this and many other choices such as medical care, education, and financial decisions might be taken away from parents if the U.S. Senate passes the United Nations Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (CRPD). This includes the decision of where our children should live and with whom. But that is not the worst part of this UN treaty if it passes. Imagine a group of “experts” from places like Iran or China dictating where your children should live, requiring a medical procedure that you know is not best for your child, or determining that your home is not good enough to meet the standards for a son or daughter with a disability. It’s not far-fetched. This CRPD treaty will become a reality in the United States as early as this fall if passed and signed by the President.”3