Getting Started (Part II): Where Are You Going?
- Debra Bell Columnist, author and conference speaker
- 2001 10 Sep
Wheres your family headed? What goals do you desire to see your children reach while they are under your care?
Home schooling isnt about protecting our kids; its about preparing them. But preparing them for what?
If you havent thought this out before, nows the time to do so. This little exercise will become an important reference point when you lose your focus in the future. It will also give you confidence that you have made a wise (logical and prayerful) decision and not a foolish (whimsical and presumptuous) one. Then youll have the faith you need to press through the tough times (which I guarantee will come).
Prayerfully consider the goals you desire your children to reach through home schooling. Write them down. Share them with your kids.
Heres the list Kermit and I made a number of years ago:
- We want our children to love to learn.
- We want our children to have a marketable set of skills.
- We want our children to accurately understand the Christian faith and enjoy a vital relationship with the Lord.
- We want our children to articulate with integrity their Christian faith to their generation in a way that is both culturally relevant and persuasive.
We certainly have other goals, values, and interests that are very important to us, but these sum-up the biggies. These make the emphasis in our home just a bit different from the emphasis in another familys home.
A Vision Corrals Our Impulses
This short list has served me well over the years. One of my favorite proverbs says, Where there is no vision the people perish (Proverbs 29:18 AMP). The New American Standard version says, Where there is no vision; the people are unrestrained.
Do you know what it is to be unrestrained? I do. My husband says without him in my life, I am a loose cannon. You just never know what I might try to shoot at next
When I dont have a clearly delineated vision guiding my decision-making, my life becomes chaotic. I waste time looking at all my options and heading down paths with no destination in mind. I meander aimlessly from day to day and accomplish nothing of eternal or even temporal value. I become double-minded and unstable in all my way, rethinking decisions, choices, and options over and over again and growing weary and discouraged.
The goals Ive listed corral me in. They are the parameters I need for assessing my options and not just whether to home school at all or not; but also in considering these things:
- What curriculum to use
- What courses of study to cover
- What activities to engage in
A Vision Fuels Our Motivation
Further, these goals get me refocused when I am discouraged by the day-to-day grind. They are the source of my motivation. I would have skipped labor during the birth of my children if there had been a way (I asked!) but I chose to go through it time and again because I had a vision of the joy at the end of the journey.
The same holds true in choosing to home school (some parallels to labor can be drawn, I must admit). But the picture I envision of my children grown, loving to learn, and serving the Lord from the sincerity of their hearts fuels my motivation. And that energizes me daily to do what I can to make that vision a reality.
One More Time, Class
If you are just getting started home schooling, or even if you have been at it awhile, have you determined your destination yet? You cant skip this part and hope to succeed. This isnt a self-help strategy its a biblical principle.
Throughout history God has consistently given a vision to His people; a promise of a coming Messiah, the hope of Christs return, our future perfection in Christ, the list goes on. Why? So we will continue to be motivated and disciplined to press on for the prize set before us. Consider this wisdom:
Record the vision
And inscribe it on tablets,
That the one who reads it may run.
--Habakkuk 2:2 (emphasis mine)
Run in such a way that you may win
Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim:
I box in such a way, as not beating the air.
--I Corinthians 9:24, 26 (emphasis mine)
I cant emphasize enough the importance of a family vision to guide you through the parenting and home schooling years. Ill be bringing it up again and again in future columns. I dont think we can be reminded enough of the importance of having a guiding vision for our home schooling life.
Thats another useful teaching strategy repetition.
In His Sovereign Grace,
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