For me, it was revolutionary when I realized that God had already given me my best friends, and it was my job to cultivate those friendships. Because of my parents’ faithful teaching and training, my siblings and I really are best friends! Now, that doesn’t mean that we don’t have friends outside of our family—on the contrary, we have some very dear friends who don’t live anywhere near us. Neither does that mean that we always get along with each other; we are still imperfect humans, frequently falling short of the standard God has set for us, and we have to daily confess and repent of sin toward each other. But we do have very close friendships. My sisters and I can talk heart-to-heart on just about anything, and that is a blessing that I don’t take for granted!

Although these relationships should be our first priorities, sometimes it’s still hard to know what to do with our time on a practical, day-to-day level. If you are like me, the possibilities may seem a bit overwhelming. There is so much to do! These years are filled with potential, and we have to be constantly seeking the Lord’s will, seeking to use our days the way that He would have us to in order to bring Him glory.

I graduated from high school in 2008, and though I’ve never lacked things to do, I do struggle from time to time with knowing what my daily priorities should be. The following ideas that I’m listing are just that: ideas. Everyone’s life is different; each person has a unique set of gifts, challenges, and opportunities that the Lord has given to be used for His glory. I am just mentioning some of the things I do in hopes that they may be an encouragement to you to be busy in this wonderful season of life!

Help Your Parents

For a girl who has always lived at home, helping your mom may be easy. Of course, pulling your share of the workload in the house is important. But what are some other ways you can make her life easier? One thing I enjoy doing is helping with the grocery shopping. I love food, and I love a good bargain, so I try to watch the grocery store ads, looking for the best deals on the foods we normally buy. I also clip coupons. I print them off the Internet, and we get the Sunday newspapers with coupons in them, so if we pay attention, we can save a good bit on things that we normally buy anyway. This helps my mom because, as the homeschooling mother of ten children ages two to twenty-one, she doesn’t have time to be browsing the Internet and newspaper looking for more ways to save money.

And what about your dad? This might be more challenging for some girls. In my family, although my dad isn’t self-employed and doesn’t run his own business, he is blessed with a job which allows him to involve his family in many different aspects. Because of this, I am privileged to be able to help him with secretarial duties, inventory tracking, website updates, and advertising. I usually go to the office with him once a week to have more concentrated “office time,” but a lot of those things can also be managed from my desk at home.

Just pay attention to what your parents do, and try to think of ways that you can make life easier for them. We have a dear friend who is in her twenties and still at home, and most of her time is entirely devoted to her family. Several years ago, she took over basically all of the sewing for her mom, while she works with her dad on the interior-design aspect of his job as a realtor. Maybe you could offer to take over the laundry for your mom or volunteer to pack your dad’s lunches when he goes to work. Perhaps you can babysit your younger siblings while your parents go on a date.

Ask your parents about it if you struggle to find ideas in this area. Whatever you can do to assist them and make their lives easier will not only fill your time in a profitable way, but will also be a blessing to them.