We serve a creative God who loves to celebrate. Since we're created in His image, it's not unexpected that we humans would love celebrations, too. Knowing this, God commanded the Israelites to celebrate many events each year, each with its own traditions, ceremonies, and foods. We in the 21st century are no different--we love a party. But if we don't guard ourselves, it's easy to become weary in all the well-doing of the holidays, too tired to enjoy the refreshment they were created to bring to our souls.

We women often pressure ourselves to be perfect. We think the house, the children, and the food must be just right. We try to prove to our friends and family (and ourselves) that we are Super Moms. Our holidays become harried-days.

The word "holiday" finds its root in the words "Holy Day." How can we plan our celebrations so they bless us instead of burden us? A good first step is to determine the essence, the true meaning, of each special day. Then we can plan activities that highlight the day's purpose and don't overwhelm us.

When Firstborn Philip turned two, I invited all of the local relatives over for dinner and birthday cake. Never mind that I was still post-partum with Newborn Nate. I was organized. I could clean the house, make dinner, and decorate a Kermit the Frog cake. Never mind that I'd never attempted a shaped cake, or even used pastry tubes before. I was Super Mom! Prepare to be impressed!

Here's the play-by-play: put boys down for naps. Bake cake. It falls apart. Follow directions for prepping pan this time. Mix up another cake. Last egg into the batter is bad. Dump the batter. Borrow an egg. Mix up another batch. Third try works! Mix frosting. Birthday Boy wakes up. "What's a surprise, Mommy?" Bribe him to stay out of the kitchen. Start squeezing hundreds of froggy-green stars onto the cake. Newborn Nate wakes up at 110 decibels. Try to nurse him while squeezing frosting through pastry tube. Fail. Wonderful Husband comes home. Super Mom bursts into tears. Wonderful Husband assigns her to nurse Newborn Nate and amuse Birthday Boy while he finishes the cake. Super Mom is relieved. Wonderful Husband places finished cake on top of refrigerator, safely out of Birthday Boy's sight. Super Mom, now revived, clears dining room table for dinner, sliding fruit bowl on top of refrigerator out of the way. Did I say that Super Mom is too short to see the top of the refrigerator? Moral of story: recognize limitations--simplify celebrations.

Subsequent birthdays at our house featured several different traditions--none of which involved a shaped cake! The birthday child could choose his favorite breakfast, lunch, and dinner menus. Mom retained scheduling rights as to which days surrounding the birthday the meals might be served. Each child could host a birthday party for friends at age eight. By that age, the guests could feed, clean, and toilet themselves and were still young enough to enjoy Mom's corny games like Pin the Tail on the Pig, relay races, and the water balloon toss. This policy of only one "friends" party per lifetime saved lots of money, energy, and figuring out where to store yet more toys that the guests gave as presents. Lest you think we were hermits or party-poopers, we often had friends over to visit and play--just not related to birthday celebrations. We did invite the local relatives for the boys' birthdays every year, however. This was a great way to keep everyone in touch, share family stories, and teach the joys of multi-generational living.

Do consider marking your child's spiritual birthday and commemorating his decision to follow Jesus as Lord and Savior. A time of reflection, re-telling his conversion story, and praying for God's blessing during the coming year would be appropriate, along with any other festivities you wish to include.

Christmas is a time of mixed feelings for many people. Maybe you didn't grow up in a Christian family. Perhaps you associate the holidays with drunken relatives or the highway death of a loved one. Perhaps it was a time when your mom went all out with cooking, cleaning, baking, and wrapping gifts--and tensions ran high because she couldn't get it all done. If you do not have happy memories of the season, determine to rewrite your story from this point forward. Start your own traditions, ones that both highlight the meaning of Christmas and fit in with this season of your life. Be selective--remember, you're adding to your already heavy workload, so choose wisely. Here are some traditions that have worked in our family.