“Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man unto whom the Lord imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile. . . . Many sorrows shall be to the wicked: but he that trusteth in the Lord, mercy shall compass him about. Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, ye righteous: and shout for joy, all ye that are upright in heart.” (Psalm 32:1–2, 10–11)  

What about all those other people in our lives whom we are not happy with? Our husbands are not meeting our needs or not helping with our burdens or not loving us. How can we be happy about that? And those children who are so stubborn or those in-laws who are such a thorn—how can we be happy in the midst of unhappy people? And that environment that we are placed in—what’s to be happy about a lost job or a small house or tight finances?

When we are saying that we are not happy with our husbands, we are really either saying that we are not happy with the authority God has provided for us or we are looking for a human relationship to meet the needs that only God can meet. When we are not happy with our children, then our focus is probably on them and not on the fact that these are God’s children and His reward to us. They are His, and we would be much happier if we really believed and acted on that truth. Those in-laws and neighbors who persecute us should give us joy. If we weren’t following God, we wouldn’t encounter persecution. And when we are not happy with our environment or finances, we are really saying we are not happy with what God has chosen to provide for us. In all of these things, we are saying that God is not enough. We don’t understand Who our God is and how He is orchestrating all things to work for good to those of us who love Him.

Just where does true happiness lie? It lies not in anything outward, but rather in our inner relationship with our Father. Let’s find some wisdom in the Word of God, and we will see some more insight into what “happy” means as described by God’s own Word:

• Happiness is gained from God’s correction: “Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty: For he maketh sore, and bindeth up: he woundeth, and his hands make whole.” (Job 5:17–18) 

• Happiness is found in hard work: “For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.” (Psalm 128:2)

• Happiness is found in our helper—the Creator of all: Happy is he that hath the God of Jacob for his help, whose hope is in the Lord his God: Which made heaven, and earth, the sea, and all that therein is: which keepeth truth for ever: Which executeth judgment for the oppressed: which giveth food to the hungry. The Lord looseth the prisoners: The Lord openeth the eyes of the blind: the Lord raiseth them that are bowed down: the Lord loveth the righteous.” (Psalm 146:5–8)

• Trusting in the Lord brings happiness: “He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he.” (Proverbs 16:20) 

• Fearing the Lord brings happiness: “Happy is the man that feareth always: but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall into mischief.” (Proverbs 28:14) 

• Persecution brings happiness: “Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.” (Matthew 5:10–12)