My son, if your heart is wise,

My heart will rejoice—indeed, I myself;

Yes, my inmost being will rejoice

When your lips speak right things.  (Proverbs 23:15-16 NKJV)

 

So what have we covered so far?  The bottom line is that our children need to be ready before jumping into an emotional relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  We as parents must control this process.  And dads must take the initiative and be in charge in this important process of pre-adulthood.

 

We need to help our own child to make sacrificial decisions, but even more importantly to be obedient.  He or she should be compelled to do what you command, no matter what.  The first and only explicit command in the New Testament specifically to our kids says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”  And as Dr. Laura says, “Now, go do the right thing!” 

 

God has clearly designed the nuclear family as His means of protecting us from Satan’s attacks.  We need to help our children to live within this structure as they grow to maturity.

 

One of the options that we offered Josiah yesterday really surprised him.  We offered to invite Christiana to personally take part in our family by inviting her over for game nights and family outings.  Maybe part of our motive is that once she sees what we are really like, she will run in the other direction like crazy! 

 

Seriously, Josiah didn’t expect Dad and Mom to offer this.  He told us that he never thought we would do something like that.  It just illustrates how even when we live together every day, with the best of intentions, motives, and loving relationships, some things aren’t obvious.  It is also good to keep our kids guessing.  Surprise them at times with grace-giving sacrifices. 

 

As parents, we think we are very generous with our children.  But each child sees the world through his or her personal experiences.  We must be malleable.  This is one way in which we try to “think outside of the box.”