My daughter recently borrowed her brother's car for the evening. While driving on the highway under a bridge, a large rock hit the front windshield and cracked it. A freak accident? Yes. Life happens. But someone has to pay to fix it. I believe our 'family reality training' helped them solve the problem amiably, without blame or guilt.

Driving is a privilege that impacts the whole family.

The car is not up for grabs. It doesn't go to whoever is most vocal about wanting it. To paraphrase Philippians 2:4, "A driver does not consider only his own needs, but also the needs of other family members." Having a driver's license is about contributing to the family. It's about being helpful and serving others. Each driver needs to communicate and schedule with family members about using the car (or cars). Each driver is expected to help with errands and drive others to appointments or practices. Each driver is trusted to be home on time, for others need the car too.

Perseverance, dependability, patience, commitment, honesty. These character qualities can blossom in our teens as they gradually acquire the privilege of driving. The life lessons it provides in setting priorities, money management, responsibility, service, and character development are woven into our ongoing homeschool curriculum. Consider this perspective in your homeschool: driving is a privilege!

*This article first published February 10, 2008.

Linda Joyce Heaner has two young adults with licenses and another one finished 'the process.' "I'm amazed by how much God teaches each of us through this one area of life!" she says. You can contact her at