I call it a “game” because when young people who are not ready for marriage start playing with each other’s emotions, it becomes a deadly, self-destructive, and family-destroying game that almost always takes the young people off the right path.

I have talked to several pastors in the last few months, and they have told me, “There are more young people being destroyed by the boyfriend/girlfriend game in our churches than by any other thing we know of.”

Paul gave the principles for purity and happiness in II Corinthians 11:2 when he said, “For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.” The meaning is, “A pure maiden saves her love for one man only.”

Twenty years ago, we thought the boyfriend/girlfriend game was normal. It was destroying lives all around us, but we just thought it was part of our culture and didn’t really know what else to do.

I remember a godly father in our church who had a daughter who started liking a young man. The father watched it and didn’t try to stop it. After all, it was normal. Then the father saw some character flaws in the young man’s life. He became alarmed. His diligent hand went to work. He talked to his daughter. He pulled her away from that young man. He did anything he had to do for his daughter. That was over 20 years ago. That daughter is now married, faithfully serving God with her husband and children. The young man has been out of church for years, and I believe he has had two failed marriages. I wish both had been rescued, but at least the hand of a diligent father saved his daughter’s life.

A diligent hand in parenting produces the inestimable riches of character and virtue in our children. That’s why it is so foundationally important for parents to be both vigilant and diligent in raising their children. There are so many influences that would try to pull our children off the right path that we must be always watchful, ready and willing to do whatever we need to do to keep our children traveling down the right path. May God help us as we diligently seek to keep our children in the right way. 



Dr. S. M. Davis has been the pastor of Park Meadows Baptist Church for 33 years. He and his wife, Rae Jean, have been married for 39 years and have four children and 11 grandchildren. He also speaks widely in churches and at homeschool conventions on family-related issues. For more information about his ministry, visit www.SolveFamilyProblems.com or call 800-500-8853.

Editor’s Note: This article was originally preached as a sermon by Dr. S. M. Davis and is specially edited and adapted for publication in Home School Enrichment Magazine.

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