I know some godly men who read aloud to their children from great biographies every evening. The children love it and sit in rapt attention. You know why? Because that’s what they’re used to doing. Their appetites have not been spoiled by the “sweet” things of this world, so they’re glad to have the “meaty” things.

Rebellion must be replaced with respectfulness. Disloyalty must be replaced with loyalty. Gossiping must be replaced with uplifting conversation. Intentionally, deliberately, think of only good things to say. Replace words of criticism with words of gratefulness.

If you’ve got a problem with selfishness, you’ve got to replace it with selfless acts of service. If you’ve got a problem with anger, you’ve got to replace it with love and kindness. You’re going to be filled with something. Lust or purity. Envy or trust. Hatred or love.

I’ve seen parents who just try to protect their children. That’s great. We need to protect our children. But that can’t be all we do. We can’t just keep them away from the dangerous, bad things of the world. We’ve got to give them good things.

Don’t try to put yourself or your children in a vacuum. Only when we take active steps to replace bad with good and wrong with right can we and our children live in true spiritual victory. 

Published on March 13, 2009


Dr. S. M. Davis has been the pastor of Park Meadows Baptist Church for 33 years. He and his wife, Rae Jean, have been married for 39 years and have four children and 11 grandchildren. He also speaks widely in churches and at homeschool conventions on family-related issues. For more information about his ministry, visit www.SolveFamilyProblems.com or call 800-500-8853.

Editor’s Note: This article was originally preached as a sermon by Dr. S. M. Davis and was specially edited and adapted for publication for the Jan/Feb ’09 issue of Home School Enrichment Magazine. Learn more at http://HomeSchoolEnrichment.com