Not only do we need our friends to encourage us as wives and mothers, but also in practical daily matters. The Lord has recently blessed me with an older friend who has much more knowledge than I do in homemaking. She has a large family and has learned to be frugal. She gardens and sews. She works hard. And while she would never admit or probably even recognize it, she is a living example of the Proverbs 31 woman. By simply and quietly living the life God has called her to, her testimony is an encouragement to me.

It is important to note that a true friendship is not one-sided. There are times when we need to talk, but other times when we just need to listen. There are times to ask advice and other times to encourage. There are times when we have a prayer request and other times when we need to be the one praying. There is give and take in a true friendship. I have heard stories of women who would only come around when they needed a babysitter, a ride, or another act of kindness. This is not a healthy friendship. Some have never seen a true friendship or been taught what one looks like, so I would encourage anyone who has a friend like this to be gentle and honest with her, "speaking the truth in love."

Finally, a true friend will encourage us to grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord. While it is a concept that has sometimes seemed lost, accountability can really make a difference in the life of a believer. A friend who points us to the Lord and His Word is a friend indeed.

One day while walking, my friend and I were sharing our burdens. "What we need to do," I said, "when we get discouraged, is to get down on our knees and go to the Lord in prayer."

"You know," my friend replied, "most people would have said, ‘When we get discouraged let's give each other a call.' But you are right, that is much better advice."

And isn't that what friends are for?  

 Kimberly Williams is a pastor's wife, homeschooling mother, author, and most importantly a disciple of Jesus Christ.  Living in south Mississippi with her husband and three precious children, her career is her family.  Kimberly enjoys reading, playing the piano, and writing poetry.   She would love to hear from you on her blog at

This article was originally published in the Jul/Aug 2010 issue of Home School Enrichment Magazine. Sign up now to receive a FREE sample copy! Just click here: