When Your Heart Grows Faint

As you read this, you may not even be sure how to pray for your husband. Perhaps you are stumbling through the dark night of your relationship. You may feel angry, fearful, and emotionally exhausted because your husband is not living up to his end of the bargain. You may even feel spiritually inept. I have felt, at one time or another, all of the above. But I have learned that uncertainty, sorrow, anger, and exhaustion do little to improve a situation.


If you’re not already doing so, begin praying with your husband. There is nothing more precious than entwining your hearts and souls in prayer. God will bless you, your husband, and your marriage!

Prayer, on the other hand, will improve any situation, no matter how desperate. Growing in our prayer commitment for our husband and concentrating on our faithfulness make us more keenly aware of God’s desire to shower His faithful with blessings. If you have ever wondered if God hears your prayers and petitions, keep a prayer journal. His responses to your prayers and petitions will astound you. He is faithful!

But there are times when discouragement and desperation grip our hearts. At such times, before we can pray for our husbands, we first need to pray a heartfelt prayer for ourselves:

"Hear my cry, O God;Give heed to my prayer. From the end of the earth I call to You when my heart is faint; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I." ~ Psalm 61:1–2

When we pray, we, like David, can know that God does hear our cries.

"He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay, And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God." ~ Psalm 40:2–3

Many times during our family’s most chaotic season of kids, careers, and multiple commitments, it was those Scripture verses and others that lifted my feet out of the "miry clay." Only then was God able to show me that my husband was, in fact, His favored son. Seeing our husband as His favored son equips us with the faithfulness and persistence we need to become and remain a praying wife in all circumstances—not just when he remembers to pick up his dirty laundry, or sends us flowers, or takes the kids to the park on Saturday so we can shop, or remembers to buy tickets to our favorite symphony performance the day they go on sale.

Prayer Is Our Responsibility

Author and speaker Evelyn Christenson understands that it is often easier to pray about our mates than it is to pray for them. "Praying for spouses," she advised a group of women, "has nothing to do with rights, how we are treated, or what the other person may be doing. It is our responsibility, no matter the circumstances."

We need to be in the spirit of prayer at all times, so that prayer becomes part of our relationship with the Lord rather than a ritual. We pray for our husband because we love him and want to lift all that he is and does to the throne of God.

Like a number of the men interviewed, my own husband did battle with his soul when faced with financial success in a relatively short time. Because his character had always been as steady as the seasons, his struggle blindsided me. At first I wasn’t even sure how to pray. I believed the ultimate success of my prayers hinged on my feelings for him. And, quite honestly, I wasn’t in the mood to pray for the man who had crushed my spirit. But an extraordinary thing happened when I began seeing him—and praying for him—as a favored son of God.